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Post by kristin8888 on Nov 8, 2011 10:47:50 GMT -6
not sure if I put this in the right place or not but I'm having a really hard time deciding what to do.
Daycare boy (will be 5 in 2 weeks), about a month ago he told another 5 year old boy to suck it (his penis) other 5 year old boy bit it instead. Talked to parents of all involved everything has been good...
Until today. I find almost 5 year old sitting on the floor on the side of the chair with almost 2 year old laying on the floor on her tummy in front of him. As I'm walking up to them to see what they're doing, he's pulling her pants up. He won't tell me what he was doing to her and she doesn't talk enough to tell me what happened either.
What do I do, obviously talk to mom but do I keep him in my care and give him one more chance or tell mom that he can't come back anymore? Sorry if that's all confusing.
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Post by kristin8888 on Nov 8, 2011 11:01:47 GMT -6
I asked him if people do this to him and he said no. Obviously he could be lying to me. I do plan on calling my licenser and speaking to her about it and getting her advice. Gosh this Is so hard.
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Post by apryllraye87 on Nov 8, 2011 11:03:18 GMT -6
This needs to be reported immediately.. there isn't a reason that a 5 year old should know or be saying those kinds of things. Who knows what might be going on in that boy's life when he is outside of your care.
Definitely talk to parents of both children and I agree with Vic. Once you report it the boy probably won't be in your care anymore.
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Post by cakemakermom on Nov 8, 2011 11:19:09 GMT -6
I agree with Apryll, as an adult in care of children, you are required to report things like that. You could actually get in trouble for not reporting it. As a parent, I'd rather have cps check on me and find me not to have any problems going on if someone were to suspect something wrong than to have no one be an avocate for my children when they're outside of my care.
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Post by JazzyMaxie on Nov 8, 2011 11:27:27 GMT -6
THE ALMOST 5 YEAR OLD NEEDS TO GO HOME RIGHT NOW. THIS INCIDENT NEEDS TO BE REPORTED RIGHT NOW. COVER YOUR BUTT! And, from a parent's perspective....this child has already had two strongly inappropriate mishaps. There is no room for a third occurance.
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Post by outdoorsmommy on Nov 8, 2011 11:41:06 GMT -6
I had almost the same thing happen at my daycare this past January the boy was 5 almost 6. I talked to his mom and she told me the neighbor boy use to get him to show him his parts and touch him and the mom was not worried at all because she considered it "normal" behavior. I immediately called my daycare licensor and she was putting it in file and reporting it. I talked to the boy and got nothing and I had to let the family go because I did not want the other children in danger. My biggest fear was this boy since it seemed as his family thought it was normal. Call your licensor and talk with him/her to report it and you should let the family go.
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Post by kristin8888 on Nov 8, 2011 11:53:38 GMT -6
Well, I talked to mom and told her what happened. She was speechless. Didn't know where it is coming from. I told her that her children can not come to daycare the rest of the week until I talk to my licensor. I just emailed her, waiting for a response back. The worst part for me is this just happened to an almost 2 year old who can't defend herself or tell me what happened. Thanks for your input ladies. This will be reported.
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Post by apryllraye87 on Nov 8, 2011 12:52:53 GMT -6
I'm very relieved to hear that you are going to report it..
I really hope that nothing has happened to the 5 year old that is causing these behaviors.
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Post by kristin8888 on Nov 8, 2011 13:21:12 GMT -6
Thanks vic. It is very hard for me to bet a family go for any reason. I am supposed to be keeping these kids safe and with that child being here they weren't safe. I'm still waiting to hear back from my licenser but I think I will have to let this family go permanently. If I don't, I risk losing the rest of my families.
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Post by outdoorsmommy on Nov 8, 2011 14:03:11 GMT -6
In my 8 years of doing daycare that was the only child that I had to let go, it was very tough I kept questioning myself and could not sleep for a week thinking I did something wrong but I knew in the end after a couple weeks it was the write thing to do for my business and my other daycare families
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Post by nevaehsmom327 on Nov 8, 2011 15:29:18 GMT -6
Good job! Keep us updated!
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Post by kristin8888 on Nov 8, 2011 15:59:12 GMT -6
Well the family of the boy is being talked to by social services tonight. The family of the little girl is also my husband's cousin and she happens to know the boy's mom. They have a rough life at home And DH's cousin told me this isn't my fault and that she is behind me all the way as far as talking to social services goes. She thanked me for all I do for the kids and is just being really calm about it all. It's been a rough day but we're getting through it. Still waiting to hear from the county, assuming I will hear from them tomorrow.
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Post by JazzyMaxie on Nov 8, 2011 16:09:25 GMT -6
Hugs to you Kristin...it has been a tough day, and you are doing the right thing!
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Post by laurac on Nov 8, 2011 16:14:04 GMT -6
Oh Kristin, daycare is thee hardest job that there is. Hands down. And when we parents go to work outside the home and you are watching our children we trust that you will keep them safe and you are doing that by letting that family go. {{Hugs to you}}
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Post by kristin8888 on Nov 8, 2011 16:18:29 GMT -6
Thanks for all of the support everyone! Earlier today when I wrote the original post I was so overwhelmed with what to do! But things have been set in motion and now I just need to go with the flow and let the county do their job.
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