Anyone have a breakup story to post.

[CindyChapman]

Chat about it here

[betherin]

Hmmm...this should be an interesting post.

I have a good break-up story. Unfortunately, it makes me look like a pretty terrible person, but in the end it was the right thing to do.

I dated the same guy throughout my entire 4 years of college. After our senior year we took a month long trip to Europe. The first week of the trip was touring and performing some gigs with our college jazz band. The next week we traveled with a small group of friends and the final two weeks were just us traveling by ourselves. I had known for a little while that I didn't want to be with him forever, but for some dumb reason I chose to break up with him just a few days into the trip. Yep, that's right! I got to travel for a month with a guy I just broke up with...and for two weeks by ourselves. Let's just say there were A LOT of awkward moments, but we somehow managed to survive. We didn't even say good-bye at the airport when we got back to the U.S. and we haven't talked since. Crazy!

[CindyChapman]

Oh....that is awkward! Where is he now?

[betherin]

He lives somewhere in the Twin Cities. We are both music teachers, so I have seen him at a few conferences, but never had a conversation or anything.

[dara1012]

My college boyfriend break -up story.....

He was 2 years ahead of me in school. We began dating October of my freshman year and dated until the winter of my senior year. He moved to VT after college and then CO the next year. I went to VT to live with him the summer before my senior year in college. I was planning to move to Boulder after graduation until......two weeks before my senior thesis for my psychology major was due he calls to tell me that he canceled his flight to visit because he was breaking up with me....timing could not have been worse! How was I supposed to concentrate on finalizing my thesis when my whole life was turned upside down (from the perspective of a 22 yo)? I barely ate, slept or showered....I somehow managed to finish my thesis (and got an A) but I was super stressed and frustrated especially that he broke off a 3 1/2 year relationship on the phone. To make matters worse 2 weeks after we broke up he called to tell me that he was in love with my best friend (needless to say we are no longer best friends). I had been the person to encourage my best friend to go visit my boyfriend for a week of skiing the month before....my bad!

I always felt like I didn't get the closure I needed - I never understood what I did wrong or what made him stop loving me. He promised we would get together that summer to talk (he worked at a Y camp 20 min away from my parents lakehouse) well the two times I called when I was at the lake he was "too busy". So I washed away my stress with some wine and just moved on.....fast forward see him and former best friend (now married) at a friend's wedding 5 years ago, it was awkward. Then last year his wife calls because he has been abusive and is suffering from mental illness and threatening to hurt himself, her and their children. She is wondering if he ever abused me and if yes could I write a statement for her court date (he had never hurt me). Her comment was "you were the lucky one to get out of the relationship".

So all in all I feel pretty lucky to have a great DH and not have the college boyfriend in my life!

[bumblebee23]

hmmmm.....I have been with DH since I was 16 so all of my previous relationships where pretty much kid stuff. I did date this guy when I was like 14yo. He was a pretty sweet guy. He would dedicate songs to me, write me poetry stuff like that. He lived in the next town over but that is pretty far in ND especially when you don't drive. We talked all the time on the phone and he was constantly telling me he loved me. I really liked him alot but we were young and he was way getting way to intense and serious. I went to visit him at his house once with my cousin (who was dating his cousin) and we were making out on his bed. He pulled the blankets over us and was trying to go up my shirt and down my pants then he pulls a condum out and says something about us having sex. I couldn't beleive the nerve! I wasn't ready and had no interest and I sure as heck wasn't going to do anything with two other people in the room. I grabbed the condum from his hand and threw it across the room. He got mad cause his mom just pulled in the driveway and was frantically looking for it. My mom pulled up a few minutes later and I ran out to the car while he was trying to find the condum and not get busted by his mom!

I broke up with him shortly after that. I talked to him about a year ago after I found him on fb. He said I broke his heart and I was the first girl he ever loved....kinda made me feel bad because I just didn't feel the same way about him.

[angel22]

I was the "heartbreaker," too, I guess. The worst breakup I did was college. I was dating a guy from Greece for a year and a half (and it was really hard to get it to last THAT long!) He went back to Greece for the summer and I was in a play and having the time of my life! After yet another fight over the phone with the boyfriend I said enough and broke up with him. He called a few times and I was always nice but adament that it was over. I was always too nice to him though because when he got back he kept trying to win me back then stalked me for about three months. He said that he thought I was "joking" about the breakup and didn't understand why I didn't want to be with him. Ugh.

[angel22]

Before the Greek I never had a relationship last more than 5 months. My first boyfriend- in 10th grade, annoyed me too much about two weeks before our winter formal so I dumped him. (Too bad, he was a really good guy.) The next boyfriend was senior year and I dumped him because I was annoyed by him. (Totally ok because he was younger and I think he liked a friend of mine.) The next one was in college and when he went home for the summer I found another guy that I liked more. (Terrible of me, I know!) I dated him the shortest amount of time but he is the one that still goes on and on to a mutual friend about how I "tore out his heart and left a hole that can never be filled." Blech! The guy I dumped next almost OD'd after our breakup. I broke up with him because I realized that in the 5 months I dated him that I never once saw him while he wasn't stoned (or worse.) And because I started crushing on the Greek. Tee-hee! After the Greek I took about a year off then met DH. I hope that I don't ever have to go back to dating- I'm not very good at it!

[ReneeW]

I was dating this younger guy in college -- he had pursued me for the longest time and I decided to give me a chance. So what does he do? Cheat of course. One night I had suspicions and he came over and picked me up in his car and we drove around talking. He confessed and I was furious and he was sad and got out of the car (he was driving -- actually just stopped in the street). I yelled at him to get in the car but he didn't so I slid over into the driver's seat, took off in his sports car and left him there, a couple miles from campus, in the cold drizzling rain, he had no coat, it was February I believe. I drove around for a while listening to loud music, then went back and parked his car in the parking lot where I lived, left it open with the keys in it and when he called, my roommate told him to come and get the car himself. He always wanted to get back together and I was like, ummm, I don't think so. No stinkin' way!!!

[cakemakermom]

I'll tell you my last breakup.

I met the guy through one of those dating websites. He was a decent guy and we went out for a few months. Apparently he "wasn't falling in love with me" so he broke up with me. (Fed me dinner that day too, what a decent guy.)

I set up my internet a couple weeks later and went into a chat room and met my now hubby...