Baby Shower for #2?

[supermommy]

I would say it is okay since you are having a girl but that's just me I guess.

[danikasmom]

Have it after the baby is born, so then everyone gets to meet the new one. SO it can be come meet ____ and not a shower. This is a fun way to celebrate the baby and not feel like people have to bring presents. It's always fun to hold a baby too. Most people who have multiple showers make me feel like all they want is presents.

[love]

I agree Danikas.
Okay I do have a question that has me wondering. The people who say they would need new car seats, strollers, cribs etc do you expect people at the shower to buy these things? I feel these big ticket items are my responsibility as a parent to buy them if the one for the first child is bad or expired. Not saying that is what you are saying but it seems odd it is brought up on having a shower. Yes they are expensive but having a child is. I do not expect anyone but my husband and I to buy expensive things for my son or future children and I wouldn't expect my shower go 'ers to do that. I recently got invited to one that was on the 4th child and only registered for the expensive items since "the old ones are old and can't use them" I guess it hit a nerve.
Once again, I'm not trying to be mean so please do not come at me like that just wondering if you feel it is expected or would be a nice gesture? I know I am odd We are financially able to do this so I question if fiances play a part in this?!
I do think every baby is worth celebrating and every baby is a blessing!

[dara1012]

Love- I was one of the people who made that comment about car seats and cribs (just b/c if we have #2 that is all we would need besides new clothes if opposite gender). And, no, I do not expect anyone to buy those big items for us. But, we did register for them and got the travel system (infant carseat, base, stroller) as a gift from my brother, SIL and my parents. We also registered for the convertible carseat and got one from my aunt and uncle. My family had specifically asked us to register for "big ticket" items so that they knew what we wanted as they wanted to get something significant. We also registered for books, bath stuff, baby toys and other things that our friends/coworkers could afford. Often co-workers will pool money together to buy something big off someone's registry (high chair, swing, jogging stroller, etc), I think it is nice to have low, middle and high priced options on the registry, not a guarantee you'll get things, but if people want to shop to your preference it gives them that opportunity.

In all honesty a new crib and carseat are the least of our expenses if we have #2. Delivery, daycare, diapers and formula are much more expensive. (finances are not the reason we only have one btw - just our choice, for now at least)

[mnmommy2]

I have two boys, had one shower for the first, didn't have one for the second. Maybe if I had a girl for the 2nd baby, I would have but not for the same sex. My kids are 3 yrs apart, so I still kept all the baby stuff. After I had my 2nd son, I had some relatives question why I didn't have another shower, but I really didn't need anything except the consumables.

[love]

Thanks for responding Dara. I just did not understand if people feel that is expected.

[sarahisis]

My family had asked the same thing... for me to register for some big ticket items so they could go in on it as a household... If my family wants to help out, I welcome it, even though we can afford it!! That just means more for savings!

[love]

I'm really talking about number 2 big ticket items. Not number one. I feel a lot of people put together a big gift to give, I understand that. I'm asking if people who having a second shower expect or want others to buy the big items again.

[dara1012]

If we decide to have #2 I do not expect a shower and know that my family will give gifts b/c they want to but have no expectations for those to be large items. I am sure that in talking to my mom and dad we'll discuss that we need to buy a new car seat and crib, but I would never ask them or expect them to purchase it. While showers and gifts are nice to receive I have the expectation as a parent that it is my responsibility to purchase the items my child needs both at birth and going forward. Also if we have #2 I do not plan to register unless our parents request it for knowing our preferences (or maybe if we are expecting twins).

My parents offered to help pay for infertility treatments with DS and my response was if we couldn't afford treatment we couldn't afford to have a child. This is just my personal opinion and philosophy. It was a very nice offer, but we wanted to take care of that ourselves.

[love]

That is how how I feel but your comment previous about needing another seat and crib replying under a 2nd shower made it seem to me you would register for it and that is where my question came up.

[onlyoneboy]

I say go for it. We are having #2, DS is 7 years old and we got rid of just about everything. I'm on bedrest so I can't go out and buy the things I need and I'm not getting a paycheck. I would be happy if someone threw me a shower but I don't think that is going to happen.

[sarahisis]

my mom has asked.. for this second baby, that I register... because everyone in my family lives in a different state than me... I don't see anything wrong with big ticket items being put on a registry for a second baby...

[dara1012]

Jan 13, 2012 11:54:02 GMT -6 love said:

That is how how I feel but your comment previous about needing another seat and crib replying under a 2nd shower made it seem to me you would register for it and that is where my question came up.

sorry I confused you. I was more commenting that the thought some people have that you don't need a shower beyond #1 because you don't need anything isn't true. So was commenting that there are big things we will need again if we have #2, but no, we wouldn't register unless family requests it for their purposes.