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Post by megan1201 on Jan 10, 2012 12:33:47 GMT -6
Just wondering what the proper etiquette is for a baby shower for the second baby? My sister in law is wanting to throw me a shower, but I've heard that you are only supposed to have one for the first child.
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Post by laurac on Jan 10, 2012 12:36:52 GMT -6
That's what I thought the etiquette was, too. Just for the first one.
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Post by bumblebee23 on Jan 10, 2012 12:38:17 GMT -6
I had a baby shower for both my boys. My cousin and a friend of mine through the first one. Then my SIL and MIL threw one for my second. Since you should mostly have everything people will tend to bring diapers or clothes or you can donate everything to charity. I felt kinda bad having another one but I read in several differant places you can ask for a few of the things you need ie, bottles, burp clothes, etc or donate.
The articles also said things about celebrating the birth of your second so when they got older and looked at their baby books or what not that they would feel just as appreciated and special as your first child. Motherhood is huge and why not celebrate the births of all the children you are having. You don't necessarily have to get gifts you could just throw a shower play some games and celebrate with your friends and family!
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Post by merrr on Jan 10, 2012 12:52:08 GMT -6
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Post by love on Jan 10, 2012 13:42:45 GMT -6
Oh I remeber I got into some hot water on MLM for this response so I will keep it short- I personally do would not have one for my second child but that is me. I have heard of a sprinkle shower..... A baby sprinkle is like a baby shower except is it usually thrown for a second or third child. Usually after the first child, the new mom-to-be does not require as many items as toys, strollers, and cribs from the first baby can be reused for the new arrival.
I know people are excited for number 2 just as they are for number one, so if someone is willing and you want one go for it.
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Post by megs25 on Jan 10, 2012 13:50:32 GMT -6
I would have thought the same as LC, just for your first, but after reading these other comments....I would want to celebrate each baby's upcoming arrival, but not go as far as registering for gifts. Maybe something smaller and more low key.
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Post by nevaehsmom327 on Jan 10, 2012 13:54:08 GMT -6
Well, I'd say if you're having the same sex, less than two years apart it's proper etiquette to not have one. But any other circumstance, go for it. I know I'm having one, but I haven't had a kid in 7 years and it will hopefully be a different sex! lol
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Post by dara1012 on Jan 10, 2012 16:18:33 GMT -6
I always "celebrate" each baby that the people I supervise have, but it is bit smaller celebration than for first borns (or first adopted). For 2nd and thereafter I usually buy them diapers, wipes and maybe some bibs and washcloths (I think those things are hard to re-use). For a shower for the first baby we do something "bigger" off their registry as a group. Granted, this is what I do for the people I supervise.
For my SIL we did not do a shower, but I bought the baby gifts.
If we ever have another one we'll need a new car seat and crib due to expiration and safety recalls (drop side crib). I don't expect another shower, but sometimes the thought that they don't need anything for #2 is incorrect
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Post by stacyl on Jan 10, 2012 17:13:48 GMT -6
Etiquette says "a second baby shower is ok, if it's been 5 or more years since your previous child was born." If someone wants to throw you a shower, why the heck not?!
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Post by angel22 on Jan 10, 2012 17:19:34 GMT -6
I've always heard that its tacky to have a shower after the first child- unless there is a LARGE age gap or if everything from baby 1 was lost due to circumstance (such as fire or tornado or whatever.) I personally believe that every baby is worth celebrating, however, so whichever way it is done, whatever. =)
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Post by mickeymk on Jan 10, 2012 21:35:49 GMT -6
I also always heard that you only have a shower for a first. I however notice more and more at work that there is a shower for every baby - UGH! Expensive...haha.
I also believe from personal experience it is greatly appreciated to have a shower on the second if you are having twins or more. While you don't need two of everything you do need two of many things and also double the clothes and diapers!
I did get a shower for the twins and it was a blessing to us and greatly appreciated!
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Post by gwensmama9206 on Jan 10, 2012 23:54:56 GMT -6
I say go for it! I always thought it was kinda dumb people think you should only have one for your 1st baby but that's just my opinion. It doesn't need to be about gifts (Although they're always nice to get ) It's about celebrating your new beautiful baby.
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Post by apryllraye87 on Jan 11, 2012 7:13:54 GMT -6
If someone wants to throw you one, why not have one? If someone doesn't agree they don't have to attend
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Post by irish on Jan 11, 2012 10:03:09 GMT -6
If someone wants to throw you one, why not have one? If someone doesn't agree they don't have to attend My thoughts exactly!
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Post by sarahisis on Jan 11, 2012 11:19:43 GMT -6
I say go for it... if you have people that will attend! Maybe just a family one? just because you have had a baby before doesn't mean that you won't have to get most everything again... carseat, diapers, crib, clothing etc. Things expire and get recalled.. and those are usually the expensive things!
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