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Post by nevaehsmom327 on Jan 23, 2012 11:38:07 GMT -6
So, this is going to be a rant/vent. So, if you're not into reading those...move on! For those of you who would LOOOVE to hear all this....read on... UGH!!!! What a weekend it was. My stomach has been in my throat for 4 days trying not to puke everywhere. (almost had to pull over today on my way to work). I spent 90% of my weekend cleaning the house, while DH and our roommate sat on their butts and watched football and played video games. Now, not only did I ask both of them Fri, Sat & Sun to help me out, but a few weeks ago I sat down DH and DD to let them know that Mommy can't be so stressed, and the only thing that can help with that, is if the house is semi-picked up. And of course, that still doesn't happen. So of course it's Sunday night, I'm doing laundry, and picking all sorts of crap up. But the floor is still not vacuumed, the dishes aren't done, there are beer cans everywhere, and just plain crap and garbage. So - mama yelled. Mama got pissed. I think my roommate may now be scared, and DH may now realize to listed the first time! (Finally). So...onto monday...after getting an awesome 3 hours of sleep...2 hour drive to work and a headache, I've been crying pretty much since I left my house. This week is going to be longer than long considering today and Thursday are going to be at least 12 hour days. And on top of it all, I know that right now DH and DD are sitting at home trashing my house even more. I swear...it's the one thing...ONE THING...they can both do to help me out and make me less stressed, yet it's impossible for them to do it. Don't leave your clothes in the bathroom after you're done with your shower. Rinse your dishes. Make your bed. Keep the floor somewhat uncluttered. Etc. Is that really too much to ask from a pregnant woman?  ? UGH!!!!!!!!!!! ok. I think I'm done. Sorry, but thank you. The tears have somewhat subsided getting this out. Fricking pregnancy....definitely a case of the crazies! |
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Post by jrose on Jan 23, 2012 11:51:30 GMT -6
Time to puke on the hubby maybe he will get the hint! Sorry they are being such buttheads to you Amy, I really hope they get the hint soon! I personally would just sit around and not do one thing maybe then they will realize that nothing is going to get done unless they do it!
big (((((HUGS))))
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Post by bumblebee23 on Jan 23, 2012 12:07:53 GMT -6
I think that's called a case of the pg hormones! LOL
So sorry but I understand what your going through....flip out on him a few more times and I bet he will get the hint!
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Post by ReneeW on Jan 23, 2012 12:18:38 GMT -6
Grrrr ... that would really make me furious as well. Hang in there!! I don't know how else to motivate your DH to help out, but do you have anything tied to DD's helping out? Allowance, kudos of some kind to reward her for helping you out more? Just an idea.
But seriously ... it is so incredibly frustrating to see the house around you a mess and think, "What am I, their stinkin' maid?" I have said to my DH in the past when he's been like, "Well, I was GOING to do that," my response is "Well, you didn't pick it up, and the cat's not going to do it, so I guess that leaves me." But I do tell my DDs often that I am not their servant and they need to step it up and help out.
So --- you're definitely not alone. Hang in there! Hopefully they'll start helping more.
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Post by dara1012 on Jan 23, 2012 12:25:52 GMT -6
I am not pregnant and have the same annoyances as you. DH's best friend came over on wed. I get home from work at 9:15p and they are playing games...fine....but not fine that I was the one to recycle their beer bottles on Sat! DH never throws things away, he will set an empty wrapper on the counter less than one foot away from the garbage under the sink....it's not even child proofed anymore, it can't be that hard....and yet it is!
know that you are not alone!
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Post by fungirls on Jan 23, 2012 12:33:47 GMT -6
Definitely not alone! I'm not pregnant, either and have the same situation! I really dislike having to come home after working all day and pick up after others when I was not there. Hugs to you, and good luck. If you find a magical solution, please share with the rest of us  |
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Post by bunsy on Jan 23, 2012 12:39:00 GMT -6
Time to go on strike. Do only YOUR laundry and YOUR dishes. Clean only YOUR bedroom. They'll catch on pretty quick.
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Post by sarahisis on Jan 23, 2012 12:44:22 GMT -6
agree with bunsy 100 percent.
My hyperemesis has started already, and thankfully I am blessed with a husband who understands. Yesterday he steam cleaned all the hardwoods and pretty much took care of the dogs and ds all day!! I even got to take a 2 hr nap.
Don't overdo yourself. When they see how upset and sick you are.. hopefully they'll regroup and come around.. just do whatyou can!
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Post by sarahisis on Jan 23, 2012 12:44:42 GMT -6
agree with bunsy 100 percent.
My hyperemesis has started already, and thankfully I am blessed with a husband who understands. Yesterday he steam cleaned all the hardwoods and pretty much took care of the dogs and ds all day!! I even got to take a 2 hr nap.
Don't overdo yourself. When they see how upset and sick you are.. hopefully they'll regroup and come around.. just do whatyou can!
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Post by irish on Jan 23, 2012 12:47:01 GMT -6
((((HUGS)))) I'm in the same boat, minus being preggo. I went on strike. DH got the hint, and very slowly started cleaning up after himself, but I still do most of it. DS is pretty good about cleaning up after himself once I've prodded him a couple times! Hang in there sweetie!
Oh, and like Vic said...save the tears for DH...that should get his ass in gear!
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Post by laurac on Jan 23, 2012 13:14:14 GMT -6
Oh Hon, it's def not a pregnancy thing. Once I start to go off it's like DH stands there and says, yeah, Mom needs some help, yeah, you guys need to do more and I look at him like...um, dear, you go OVER THERE with them! You are part of the problem TOO!
I guess, you really ask for so little. Beds made, dishes in the dishwasher, clothes in the hamper, things picked up. You're not asking him to paint the damn house while you're at work, just pick up after yourself! Call him before you leave today and tell him, I'm on my way home and by God that house better be picked up or I'm walking right back out until it is!
And mean it.
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Post by apryllraye87 on Jan 23, 2012 13:29:59 GMT -6
Call him before you leave today and tell him, I'm on my way home and by God that house better be picked up or I'm walking right back out until it is! And mean it. Love this!! I am totally going to try it sometime. |
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Post by nevaehsmom327 on Jan 23, 2012 13:35:17 GMT -6
Thank you ladies. While the tears have not gone away quite yet...you have all helped in my insanity a little today! lol jen - if i could actually puke, i probably would do it right on him, but sadly it's just nausea that's been killing me. I bought DD a "responsibility chart" that was tied to her allowance...but it fell off. looks like it's time to start re-implementing. I agree with bunsy too  I really wish I could just sit on my butt and watch things turn into a mess around me, but that drives me CRAZY! (hence why the messy house is driving me bonkers!) I do think I'll start just doing my own stuff though. If DH can't see that I'm doing ALL the dishes, ALL the laundry, ALL the cooking, cleaning, etc. with minimal sleep...he sure will soon when he can't find a clean pair of underwear. LC!!!! HAHAHAHAHA! Toooo funny! Sadly, I won't be getting home tonight until after he's left for work  |
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Post by gwensmama9206 on Jan 25, 2012 15:38:45 GMT -6
Gotta love the pregnancy crazies lol But I agree with LC, it's not just a pregnancy thing. It's nice to have that as an excuse though lol I completely understand the frustration your dealing with though. The first 5-6 months of my pregnancy it was just me to do everything around here with lots of help from DD. For a while I was lucky if DH even came home at a decent time. He was constantly out doing god knows what with god knows who.... yeah.... ugh. Haha I agree with Bunsy too! DH had a lovely few months living on the couch with a big pile of dirty clothes lol I'm busy growing a baby, prayin to the porcelain god and taking care of a 5 year old, YOU can take care of your damn self! Hopefully your DH is smart enough to get off his butt and take care of his wifey before you REALLY shows him what CrAzY is!! lol |
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Post by nevaehsmom327 on Jan 25, 2012 16:03:54 GMT -6
Well, the sad thing is after I posted this on Monday...my day just kept going further and further down hill, in my own head anyway. All in all I ended up balling my eyes out, DH was pretty scared and wondering wtf was going on...but I think the point got across that I AM STRESSED! Help would be great because that porcelain god don't clean itself!!! lol
we'll see. usually when this happens it's good for a week then back to normal, but I think he may have finally picked up on the hint that I'm serious about needing help around the house! If he doesn't shape up...he certainly will see CRAAAZY! haha.
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