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Post by Samantha on Feb 26, 2012 14:19:01 GMT -6
I'm wondering how many of you that have had miscarriages actually found a cause? It seems like the likely answer I'll get is "I'm not sure why you had a miscarriage and it's unlikely that you'll have another." But I want to know! Pregnancy won't be fun anymore, I'll be so worried that it'll happen again. I did everything right! I didn't drink alcohol or caffeine, I ate healthy, took my vitamins, did prenatal exercises but honestly it didn't feel right from the beginning. I'm also worried I won't be able to get pregnant again and if I do I'm afraid I'll miscarry again. I want to hear your experience, what'd the doctors tell you? How long before you got pregnant again? What was it like for you?
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Post by ladyandrearose on Feb 26, 2012 15:23:22 GMT -6
Samantha: I am so sorry about your miscarriage. ((hugs))
I miscarried around 8 weeks, found out around 10 and went through the physical loss at week 11. I never found out a cause. I was told, "it is very common and it is likely to be a chromosomal thing." I too did everything right. I blamed myself for a long time. I stopped "feeling" pregnant and had spotting. We just never heard the heartbeat at our ten week appointment. After an ER visit, the attending doctor, said, "I know it is said, but without trying to be offensive, a miscarriage is kind of like greasing the works and will help you next time you conceive.
We conceived our DD when I should have been five months pregnant. I was very worried about EVERYTHING!! I was morning sick my entire seven monthes (I had a preemie) Instead of being mad about it, I embraced it, each time I puked I felt my DD was ok. Kind of a weird thing to hang onto, but it helped me feel better about DD survival chance. I was deeply worried until I passed the 12 week mark, less worried at 13 weeks and just nervous until I had DD. My greatest sense of peace come from my pastor. At communion, he was quoting scripture and that day I felt it was as if God was directly speaking to me to tell me that this baby would make it. It tempered my nervousness. I never did lose the fear of, "will I lose this one, too?" totally.
Your fear is normal. Talking about it to other ladies who had experienced a miscarriage was most helpful. (My DH was pretty useless in this regard.)
I will pray for you! Good luck! I hope I helped a little bit.
PS. My DD is now 5, fully caught up from being a preemie, she is wonderfully fantastic. I wouldn't have had her without the loss of Hope (I named our baby). I still grieve, but I'm so grateful for the little girl I have. I am anxiously awaiting my reunion with Hope in heaven.
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Post by ballerinamomma on Feb 26, 2012 15:55:43 GMT -6
I miscarried twins in September 2010. We are now 24 weeks pregnant with a girl. With the miscarriage we did get an answer... There was a genetic disorder. I met DH when I was pregnant with the twins, so no he wasn't the father. The father of the twins was a carrier of a disorder and it caused them to pass. I was 10 weeks when I miscarried. We didn't try to get pregnant, so I can't say how long it took us since our girl was a very unplanned pregnancy, but a huge blessing non the less! I do worry. A lot. But I just pray for peace and signs she is okay. I throw up still and, I too, find peace in it. We've been very blessed this pregnancy with a wonderful doctor that understands my concerns. I have heard after you miscarry your fertility rates sky rocket. I pray you are blessed with another baby if that is what you would like We've been praying for you and your DH. I hope you are doing okay.
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Post by dara1012 on Feb 26, 2012 18:56:12 GMT -6
My SIL and brother had a miscarriage and found out it was b/c two sperm had fertilized the egg. She miscarried around 8 weeks but didn't know until 12 weeks. They had to wait 4 months before trying to conceive again b/c of other health issues but did conceive again and carry a little boy to full term. My beautiful nephew is now 4 months old. My SIL chose to do an extra u/s that they paid for out of pocket for her piece of mind.
Good luck!
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Post by apryllraye87 on Feb 27, 2012 8:56:20 GMT -6
I miscarried at 9 weeks. My doctor couldn't give me a reason but said that it is more common than you'd think. We got pregnant with DS a few months later and I had a completely healthy pregnancy and baby. I was also very scared that it would happen again but started to feel better after the 12 week mark.
It's completely normal to feel scared. I'm so sorry for your loss and I'll keep you and your future pregnancy in my thoughts and prayers!
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Post by jlschlangen on Feb 27, 2012 9:53:18 GMT -6
I had a miscarriage to at roughly 6 weeks. They claimed it was a chromozone problem of some sort. I was depressed then a year or so later I had my son then roughly 16 months later I had our daughter. My sister miscarried 3X though she had 3 kids too.
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Post by nevaehsmom327 on Feb 27, 2012 10:21:49 GMT -6
I didn't get an answer with any of mine (had 3). Thankfully after the last one it only took 3-4 months to get pregnant again. They just happen sometimes...the best explanation I got was from Suzy (a fellow MOMer who's not on very much any more, but none the less wise) that the kid probably had 2 heads, 6 arms and 15 toes. God just didn't want it to be. The good new is you'll one day get to meet your unborn baby in heaven. I know it's hard to accept, and hard to understand. But God has his timing for everything, and his reasoning for everything.
More prayers for you my dear. Just take it easy, and know that things will work out. ((((HUGS))))
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Post by Samantha on Feb 27, 2012 15:32:55 GMT -6
Thanks ladies, it's so nice to have the opportunity to be able to talk to all of you. Huge peace of mind for me. I'm also lucky to have a sister in law who is an acupuncture/chinese medicine healer lady haha and she's determined she can make my body healthy enough to conceive within two months and carry a healthy baby to full term. I'm gonna talk it over with my ob but from the research i've done, acupuncture is quite respected as a fertility treatment. My fingers are crossed and my prayers are going out to the big guy!
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Post by nevaehsmom327 on Feb 27, 2012 16:36:06 GMT -6
Just one piece of advice through this...try not to worry, stress or think about it too much. I know it's much easier said than done (trust me, it was a PITA for me lol) but stressing over it can just make it worse on you, and on your body.
BUT - proud of you for finding a solution and wanting to get back on the ball...it can be hard! But give your body time to heal as well.
Love and lots more hugs for you!!! And of course...many...many...MANY prayers!
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