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Post by ilovemybooboo on Mar 2, 2012 13:54:28 GMT -6
So since I had my DD 2 years ago, I dropped down from full-time to .9 (every other Fri off) and then 4 months ago I went to .8 to have one day off a week with her. Now I have this opportunity to do another job (part-time as well) and try to get out of my current career which I'm burnt out in. I'm very excited about this new job but it probably means that I will go back to "full-time" between the 2 jobs. I feel good about it, but my husband is putting little thoughts into my head like "I thought you wanted to work LESS and stay home with DD MORE..." etc. Even though he supports my decision he makes me feel a little guilty. I love being home with my DD - BUT I keep thinking sooner or later she will be in school and then I'll be bored sitting at home on my off days. Then I re-think the idea of having a second child because of this guilt of only seeing the kids for 2 hours at night and on the weekends. I'm looking at the big, long-term picture - being happier at a new job, less commute=more time with DD hopefully. I just still have that guilt of not being home with her as much as I think I should. I don't want to feel selfish. Anyone else feel this way?
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Post by dara1012 on Mar 2, 2012 15:43:43 GMT -6
Keep looking at the "long term picture"! I love my DS and definitely have guilt ridden moments as a working mom because he is in daycare FT, but I also have evening commitments for work (the last week of March I have evening work commitments Sun, Mon, Wed, Thurs) and on top of it I am in graduate school so I have class Tue nights and have to do school work evenings and weekends. What keeps me balanced is reflecting on the big picture for our family, taking advantage of opportunities to spend time with DS, focusing on him a lot when I am at home.
If it feels right to take the new job.....go for it! Happiness at work = happiness at home much of the time.
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Post by laurac on Mar 2, 2012 15:59:54 GMT -6
I was always a much better mother because I worked. I agree with Deb. Happy at work = Happy at home.
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Post by fungirls on Mar 2, 2012 16:10:07 GMT -6
Keep your eye on the big picture. Deb is right - happy at work is happy at home. Don't let DH make you feel guilty. Do what you have to do for you to feel good, and the rest will fall in line as you'll be happier.
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Post by ReneeW on Mar 2, 2012 17:02:03 GMT -6
It seems like it will be tough short-term, but if you can eventually transition out of the part-time job that you're burnt out in and get into doing more of the new job that you like ... that sounds ideal. So it'll be tough while you're juggling both jobs, but if you can eventually quit the one you don't like, it'll be worth it!
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