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Post by love on Oct 12, 2011 14:31:52 GMT -6
If you have more then one grandchild from one or more of your kids how do you make time for both. My family seems to have a hard time making time for BOTH grandchildren and it really stinks. I'm not trying to be rude, just want some advice or ideas! Thanks
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Post by jessijo on Oct 12, 2011 14:41:08 GMT -6
My family has the same problem! All the grandparents have favorites and it's so annoying! I wish they would hide it and spend equal time with each of the grandkids.
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Post by doeeyedgirl on Oct 12, 2011 14:56:57 GMT -6
I have the only grandkids in the family and it is very rare that the kids get time with either of them. I feel your pain, Love. Seems that people are just much more busy these days than they were when we were kids. And the favortism is a hard subject to breech. Wish I had advice for you, but just support.
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Post by apryllraye87 on Oct 13, 2011 6:41:24 GMT -6
Right now DS is the only grandchild my parents have. He is definitely the center of their lives. I sometimes worry that if my brother or I ever have more children DS will still be their favorite!
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Post by dara1012 on Oct 14, 2011 14:39:58 GMT -6
My parents are super equal when they can be. They strive to see all their grandkids (3 in 2 diff families) once a month (they live 3-4 hrs away from the grandkids). But they were also really equal with us kids too....wish I could offer some help
They never give gifts to one grandchild without giving to the other. At Christmas they give each child 1 book, 1 toy, 1 clothing item. My mom loves her grandchildren more than anything and has never shown favoritism. (Of course at the moment the new baby is a priority, but she is not ignoring the others at all)
DH is an only child so DS is the only grandchild for his mom and dad.
Hugs!
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Post by Susan824 on Oct 17, 2011 20:04:57 GMT -6
I only have one grandchild, so I cannot offer advice. I agree it stinks when one gets more attention than another. My MIL tells her 4 grandchildren who is her current "favorite" grandchild. (Yep, that stinks too and it's hard to believe anyone would actually say that to someone!) Even though all four are adult grandchildren, I'm sure it hurts to hear someone else is the "favorite". Grandparents are suppose understand unconditional love...not sure why she doesn't get it???
I do believe that people have closer connections with certain people at various stages of their lives (aware or unaware). It's possible that your family will find new ways to connect with BOTH grandchildren at different times, in different ways. Try to avoid resentment...(as you can tell I've had MIL issues)...it won't help the situation with your family.
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Post by deannemdm on Oct 24, 2011 7:22:10 GMT -6
My folks live closest to my brother. He has twin 4 yo girls and two older (high school and college aged) step sons so they are able to help out more (30 min away). My DD was the first grandchild, about year later my sister had DD then she had DS then came the twins, then my DS. Pretty sure that will be all the grandchildren. My sister and I are both about an hour away from them. Each summer they have "grandparent camp" for the kids (over age 4, and not the 2 older ones that are usually working). They had 5 kids between age 4 and age 9 this year. They help in the garden, do crafts (birdhouse one year--from kits) and bake cookies and such. The kids have a blast and they get special time with most of them at once. They have also taken my kids or my siblings' kids overnight or longer while couples are on vacation. DH and I went to ST. Croix casino Friday night and they took my 10 yo DD and 2.5 yo DS overnight. They had DS for about 9 days this summer while the rest of us went to Boston. I know they have done this for my siblings too. DH parents are both deceased so no real issue with in laws (Dh has 2 brothers and 2 sisters and they are all great, but spread out more).
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Post by fungirls on Oct 24, 2011 8:03:08 GMT -6
My parents are great at sharing their time between grandchildren equally. It is only my sister and I and we all live pretty close so it's not too difficult. DH's parents, however, ONLY make time for one set of their grandchildren, and don't seem to give two licks about the rest of them. If they only knew what they were missing. My kids see them so little that DD2 doesn't believe she has more than one grandma!
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Post by love on Oct 24, 2011 13:17:47 GMT -6
Isn't that the truth vic? Our issue has gotten worse and it is like pulling teeth for her to see him. Ugh
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