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Post by AuntSueto4 on Apr 12, 2012 10:40:18 GMT -6
ENCOURAGEMENT FOR MOMS, I saw this article and thought/hope it encourages you Moms in what you do and are for your children. AuntSueto4Posted by: Mandy Chronister, on the Flylady site: powerofmoms.com/2012/04/your-children-want-you/Your Children Want You! powerofmoms.com There's this crazy phenomenon going on right now. Good, devoted mothers get on Pinterest . . . .and blogs . . .. and Facebook . . . .and Twitter . . . and they're convinced they're not enough. Here's what I've discovered.
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Post by doeeyedgirl on Apr 12, 2012 10:47:34 GMT -6
I LOVE this post. Thanks so much for sharing! She is definitely right. I search Pinterest and blogs seeing all these cool things I think I should be doing for my kids. When really all they want is what I have been providing for the last 10 and 4 years of their lives. US.
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Post by dara1012 on Apr 12, 2012 14:59:10 GMT -6
I just had a conversation with a mom that went something like this....
Friend" I am such a bad mom, I totally forgot to dye Easter Eggs with my son this year"
Me "You are not a bad mom at all. He is 2 and will be just fine that you didn't dye Easter eggs".
This mom is just coming back to full time work after having her 2nd son. So she is balancing a 2 yo, 11 week old and a job....but sometimes we feel like we should be doing more b/c of feeling like what we do isn't good enough.
I suffer from this guilt all the time. working FT and being in grad school doesn't always leave time to make shaped pancakes, really cool art projects and keep my house clean. I need a reminder that spending time together is all DS really needs from me.
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Post by sharon on Apr 13, 2012 6:34:02 GMT -6
We are doing the best we can. We aren't perfect don't give our child every perfect experience, but I really think that's OK. I often say we have to screw up just enough so he has something to tell his therapist later  |
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Post by sarahisis on Apr 13, 2012 8:13:23 GMT -6
Love that Sharon lol sounds like something my mom has said in the past... we shouldn't strive to be perfect... it isn't "normal"
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Post by dara1012 on Apr 13, 2012 8:53:53 GMT -6
I love Sharon's comment!
"perfect" is only a perception and after I became an adult I found out that my friend's ("Susie") mom who was always available and doing fun crafts and above and beyond things also had a drinking problem....I once asked my mom why she wasn't more like "Susie's" mom b/c my mom had to work some evenings and couldn't come to every softball game like "Susie's" mom and wasn't available for carpooling and didn't make us fancy after school snacks. My mom was a great mom (and still is) who tried her best to be a good mom but wasn't perfect.
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Post by fungirls on Apr 13, 2012 8:59:37 GMT -6
"Perfect" is definitely a perception. But it is hard to go from that "perfect" perception to accepting "good enough." I am always reminding myself that things will never be perfect, and trying to accept that we are right where we're supposed to be - messy house, PB&J for dinner more than we probably should, etc. But it is a hard transition and I need constant reminders.
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Post by fungirls on Apr 13, 2012 9:01:12 GMT -6
I also struggle with "mommy guilt" just with working full-time and all of the misses I feel I have, whether it's because we are busy at night and I forget to send DD's library books back to school with her, missing field trips, not being able to help in the classroom, etc. A friend at work and I compare our "mom fails" frequently. Many of them are similar, and it helps us keep our sanity!
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Post by dara1012 on Apr 13, 2012 9:30:31 GMT -6
I also struggle with "mommy guilt" just with working full-time and all of the misses I feel I have, whether it's because we are busy at night and I forget to send DD's library books back to school with her, missing field trips, not being able to help in the classroom, etc. A friend at work and I compare our "mom fails" frequently. Many of them are similar, and it helps us keep our sanity
