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Post by love on Apr 27, 2012 10:53:37 GMT -6
So DH has been traveling like crazy since November or so. Gone a week, back for 2 days, then gone another week etc...... Being a SAHM when he is gone is hard work! Well, he is gone for another week and after this time he has a 2 month non traveling break (whooo) and he is encouraging me to take a mommy weekend. Stay at a hotel, get room service, spa etc. At one end I think it is great and will be good for me but on the other hand I feel guilty like I should NEED to do this? I'm torn. DH travels so I can SAHM, SO we can get DS things, vacation, and be worry free with bills etc. I feel so bad that he does this for us but I feel like I need a mommy break? A few women I have talked to say go for it. It will do me good. I guess I just feel guilty that I feel I am entitled to it...UGH Anyone take mommy breaks? Is it normal? TIA
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Post by bunsy on Apr 27, 2012 10:57:06 GMT -6
Mommy breaks are amazing. If you have the ability to take one, go for it. I didn't have that chance when my kids were young but we did for visit family almost every weekend so there were others to help with the kids. That was a kind of a mommy break.
DH kicked me out one year when the kids were all in high school. We had had lots of illness, a broken bone, diagnosed anxiety in one of the kids and lots of other crap. It was the best thing. I was able to go to my sister's house for the week but if that wouldn't have been an option, i'd have done the hotel thing.
Go. Enjoy. Rejuvenate. Think only about YOU for a couple days. It is refreshing.
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Post by merrr on Apr 27, 2012 11:00:58 GMT -6
Do it, do it, do it!!! Five or so years ago I met a girlfriend in Chicago (she lives in Michigan) for the weekend, just me and her, and we had a BLAST! While I did miss my DD and my DH I wouldn't trade the memories I made with my friend for anything
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Post by dara1012 on Apr 27, 2012 11:18:34 GMT -6
Yes! You have to do it! Taking care of yourself is as important as taking care of your son. Last winter I went with friends to a hotel for one night and it was so much fun and so rejuvenating.
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Post by dara1012 on Apr 27, 2012 11:28:51 GMT -6
The other things I would add is that often I will meet up with a friend for wine and dessert at 8:30p so I get DS into bed and then head out, I don't feel as guilty as going out as I do when he is awake (however I work outside the home and am gone for school so if I was a SAHM I probably wouldn't feel that guilt).
This summer DH is having a guys weekend and I am having a girls weekend as separate times so we don't have to worry about childcare. I also try to give DH a break by taking DS to my parents for weekends every couple of months. DH isn't a SAHD but he does a lot of care for DS with me in school and when I work into the evening, I know that weeks when I am gone 3-4 nights he needs a break and I'll make sure to give him one.
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Post by laurac on Apr 27, 2012 12:02:34 GMT -6
Every year my sister, my Mom and I do a Mothers weekend. We've had them for 25 years and we shop, eat out, sleep in, some years we drank too much! But, you know what, Love? You are a better Mom because you take the time to rejuvinate and concentrate on you. You have a great hubby that can see that!
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Post by elizac on Apr 27, 2012 12:15:47 GMT -6
I wonder if you would feel different if you did not think of yourself but thought how important it is for your DH to have a weekend alone with his son especially when he is gone so much.
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Post by laurac on Apr 27, 2012 12:24:03 GMT -6
LIKE what eliza said
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Post by Samantha on Apr 27, 2012 12:46:02 GMT -6
Do it! If moms unhappy(or burnt out) the family is unhappy. Take care of yourself and recharge!
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Post by ReneeW on Apr 27, 2012 13:50:01 GMT -6
I say DO it! I agree that it'll give your DH valuable one-on-one time with your DS. The other bonus is that you'll come back a happier, healthier, more energized wife and mother. It's a win-win to go. Enjoy and know that it's for YOU, but also good for the entire family.
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Post by doeeyedgirl on Apr 27, 2012 20:16:09 GMT -6
Oh, Love! Do it! You SO deserve it! Everyone needs a little time to recharge their batteries. God bless your hubby for knowing this and suggesting it to you!
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Post by sarahisis on Apr 27, 2012 20:51:31 GMT -6
anytime my husband offers... I take it! We all should.
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Post by irish on Apr 28, 2012 8:31:55 GMT -6
Go for it! You totally deserve it, and it would be nice for your DH and DS to get that quality alone time together too!
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Post by ladyandrearose on Apr 28, 2012 11:18:07 GMT -6
I did a mommy break yesterday for about three hours. It was really nice. I'd take your hubby up on it.
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