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Post by Samantha on Apr 28, 2012 21:39:39 GMT -6
My dd is 3 and has been sleeping in our bed for about a month now. It started out with her crying and trying to come to bed with us in the middle of the night and being exhausted I gave in. Then she would not fall asleep in her bed but only in ours.. so she just ended up sleeping with us all night. I'm conflicted though because I LIKE her sleeping with us, I rarely ever get cuddle time with her so it's nice to get to fall asleep hugging her. On the other hand, we don't sleep as well as we used to and hubby and I would like some "intimate" time together in our bed. So I'm just curious if any of you bed share or not and why or why not.
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Post by sharon on Apr 28, 2012 21:46:37 GMT -6
We have to varying degrees since Ian was born 7 years ago. We did start him off in his own room from the time he was about 6 months old or so, and he would sleep at least the first couple of hours in there.
Can you lie down with her in her room to help her get used to falling asleep in there? Then if she wakes in the night she could still join you, but you would have some alone time in your room in the meantime. Plus you might get some more sleep in the meantime.
Is it a space issue? Can you get a bigger bed, or add a twin bed or mattress in your room?
Sleeping arrangements seem to be a lot of trial and error and problem solving so everyone can the best rest possible.
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Post by love on Apr 29, 2012 8:02:29 GMT -6
We just went through this. We co slept until recently. About a year ago he got a big bou bed ( we even let him pick it so he was excited about it) and all was well until he got sick and DH was traveling abd mommy needed sleep!!! Then it was just easyier to have him in bed with us..... We went to disney end of february and on the plane ride home we said tonight we are putting him in big boy bed. He was soooooo exhausted with traveling and the time change he konked out and now loves his bed. Maybe make her really really tired and put her in there? Worked perfect for us. He even stayed in there all night. We went and had him pick ne sheets and stuff. Now, he loves his bed and knows it is mommy and daddys bed now. YEA!! We do have a lounger in his room we lay in until he falls asleep. Eventually we will stop that but he has never been one to let us leave the room to sleep. GL! I suggest doing it on a friday where weekend plans are minimal incase you have a long time. It always seems like changes like this are nailed by the time monday comes. Maybe have her pick out a new fun pillow or add those glow in the dark stars or something to mske her room exciting!
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Post by love on Apr 29, 2012 8:05:18 GMT -6
Also i have heard moving her mattress near the foot of your bed and gradually move it further away until she is in her room has worked for a few people I know!!
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Post by cissy on Apr 29, 2012 9:13:14 GMT -6
Maybe try staying next to her bed until she falls asleep, or your bed and move her to hers. A night light, a big enough blanket that she can pull it up and stay warm during the night, a cup to drink. Just thinking of things that help my kids sleep.
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Post by cakemakermom on Apr 29, 2012 9:31:49 GMT -6
Our rule is that they need to initially fall asleep in their own bed. If woken up by nightmares or something, then they can join us, but I sleep so poorly when they're in bed, I tend to move them back after they've fallen asleep again.
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Post by sarahisis on Apr 29, 2012 11:55:32 GMT -6
No cosleeping or bed sharing in this house... has never even been an option. I would say, try what the others have already said and stay in her room tip she falls asleep...or.. let her cry it out.. she will fall asleep eventually.
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Post by jrose on Apr 29, 2012 15:49:44 GMT -6
DD1 had a problem sleeping on her own when she was 2 or 3 (I really can't remember) One of us would lay on the floor in her room until she fell asleep. After a couple weeks we would sit out in the hallway where she could see us and eventually all she wanted was the hall light on (she now has a night light in her room to help her fall asleep she is 4.5) We have a king size bed and still can't stand having the kids sleep with us, they are allowed in after 6 but before that NOPE! It's uncomfortable and DH and I would just end up exhausted the next day from lack of sleep.
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Post by onlyoneboy on Apr 30, 2012 5:58:30 GMT -6
No co-sleeping in our house either. In fact DS2 is only 7 weeks and was kicked out of our room at 3 weeks. He grunts too much in his sleep. DS1 has LED christmas lights strung up around his bed in place of a night light.
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Post by angel22 on Apr 30, 2012 7:35:17 GMT -6
When DD3 was fully day potty trained and started waking at night to potty she decided that she wouldn't go back to sleep in her room. I ended up making her a bed on my floor for her to sleep on (because I figured it wouldn't last long but if I let her into my bed she'd always want to be there.) Well, every night for way too many months, DD3 would wake up and cry then sleep in my room. It's only been a couple of months now that I've gotten her to sleep through the night again and stay in her own bed. I bribed her. I told her that if she stayed in her bed all night (and no crying) that she'd get a sticker on the calendar. Once she had a full week of stickers I would give her toenail polish. After 2 weeks she'd get fingernail polish. The staying in bed part happened right away but the sleeping all the way through the night took a little longer. When she'd wake up and cry I'd remind her that big girls sleep in their own beds, not on mommy's floor and that when she sleeps in her own bed she makes mommy and daddy so happy. EVERY DAY now she tells us, "I sleep in my bed all night long and make Mama Daddy SOOOO 'appy!" Yes, Babygirl, you do. =D
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Post by stacyl on Apr 30, 2012 11:37:40 GMT -6
My DD is 4, and she has only slept with me 3 times in her life. (all times were when she was sick!) I REFUSE to co-sleep!! But that is just my personal preference. Hope that you and the hubby get some times soon! Good Luck, I can imagine its a hard habit to break.
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Post by bumblebee23 on Apr 30, 2012 11:39:46 GMT -6
I never really had to many issues with this. The boys always slept in there own beds. For a short time my oldest was going through night terrors and would wake up screaming in the middle of the night so he would come crawl in with us. Bad dreams would contribute to them coming in and sleeping with us. I started making them make up a bed on the floor instead of sleeping in our bed and that helped to get them back into there own rooms.
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Post by sharon on Apr 30, 2012 14:56:21 GMT -6
It's interesting how we each have our own "absolutely not"s. For us bed sharing was no problem, but crying it out was our "not in this house."
Any progress? I hope things start moving in the right direction so everyone can get some rest!
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