Warning: Vent inside. :-/

[jrose]

I'm sorry ladies I need a little vent session!!Now we weren't really smart about our credit cards when we first met and have since learned from our mistakes and we are getting things in order. My husband sometimes gets mail from a creditor at his parents house! EVERY SINGLE TIME his mother has to open HIS mail!! The mail shouldn't be going there in the first place (but I guess it could be a desperate attempt to get my husband's attention) My parents never ever open my mail that I get at the their house. I just don't get why she needs to open things that aren't her's. DH won't say anything to her because he is afraid of hurting her feelings but I'm seriously about to give her an earful but I also don't want any hurt feelings between us and really it's between him and his mom. Just sooooooo irritating!

Thanks for letting me vent a little.

[kristin8888]

So sorry you have to deal with this, but opening someone else's mail is a federal offense!!! I would definitely say something to him, well I guess DH should be the one to say something since its his mom but still. Someone needs to say something to her!!

[dara1012]

Agreed, so frustrating!

I think DH should be upfront and say something like "Mom, I know I made some mistakes and poor choices with purchasing more than I could afford when I was younger and first got my credit cards. I am embarrassed about it, but have learned from my mistakes and my wife and I make much better decisions about how we budget and spend our money now. I am working to get all of my past financial things caught up and in order and I am sorry that you sometimes get mail from a creditor. I know that you open this mail because you care, but I am an adult and already feel embarrassed enough about late bills so I am asking you nicely to please just forward any mail you receive to my current address without opening it first".

Good luck!

[laurac]

Good one, Deb!

[apryllraye87]

That would reallyyyy annoy me. My hubby would sometimes get mail at his dads house too and he never opened it.. I don't know why someone would!

[jrose]

Thanks for the suggestion Dara!

It really pushed me over the edge because she wrote a note on the envelope saying "This needs your attention" so I KNOW she is actually reading everything in that envelope. Hopefully hubs will see my side of things and he finally says something to her.

[merrr]

How about filling out another change of address form and submitting it to the Post Office? You could do this online on his behalf.
moversguide.usps.com/icoa/icoa-main-flow.do?execution=e1s1

Then the Post Office SHOULD just forward it to you and notify the sender of the wrong address.

I feel your pain. We were young and stupid and didn't realize the full impact of credit cards either. *sigh*

[angel22]

I would just flat out say, "We appreciate your concern but it is OUR mail and OUR business. Please stop opening our mail."
After my parent's house burned down they had their mail forwarded to my SIL's parents house (my brother, SIL, and nephew all live there) and SIL's mom yelled at my mom for going through all of the mail to find stuff for them. My mom wasn't opening anything, just sorting through looking for her own mail. Mail makes some people crazy.

[bumblebee23]

I'm sorry but she is way out of line. It is NEVER ok for anyone regardless of who they are to be reading someones mail. That is like snooping in someones diary. Mail is personal, has a lot of personal information, and not all of it is fun. She is crossing a major line and your husband needs to tell her to stop.

[jrose]

Thankfully he does understand and agrees with me but still hasn't said anything to his mom. If he doesn't say anything soon I'll have to see if doing a change of address will actually forward things here just to avoid a fight between us and any bad feelings between me and his mom because again it's not between us. Thanks for the replies & suggestions!