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Post by doeeyedgirl on May 9, 2012 14:17:17 GMT -6
Yup...I've caught it. Extreme baby fever. Yikes! My hubby and I have talked about having a baby for a while now, but I wanted us to be married first and wanted to kind of at least let the ink dry on our certificate. LOL. Now, three weeks after our nuptials, I have caught the fever and I told him I wanted to wait until at least July. As funny or sad as it sounds, my two blessings were not planned...at least by me. God always has a plan. So how did you know you were ready? What questions did you ask yourself or did you just jump in?
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Post by sarahisis on May 9, 2012 14:22:29 GMT -6
When I got baby fever, I knew I was ready emotionally and physically... baby two wasn't planned but I knew we were ina good place... financially as well. If your body is telling you it's time... there has to be some truth to it!! I don't think it's too soon for you and your dh... just do what feels right!!
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Post by cakemakermom on May 9, 2012 14:26:30 GMT -6
Baby 1 was not planned, exactly. We were going to have a baby, but I wanted to be married a year first... so we were 3 months early on that... oops.
Baby 2 was planned and happened pretty quickly, it only took 2 months to happen. I wanted the kids close enough together to have a relationship, so that's why I did it so close.
9 months married, 9 months pregnant, 9 months taking care of a baby, 9 months pregnant.
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Post by jrose on May 9, 2012 14:30:05 GMT -6
Oh man baby fever! I know how you feel, I've had it for awhile! We about went ahead and did but sadly my cousin lost her pregnancy due to it being ectopic and I didn't want hurt feelings. So hubs and I talked and he wants me healthy first before we go ahead with it and I think he wants a bigger vehicle first....could be sometime this year or next year! With our second pregnancy we just jumped into it. This one is going to take some planning first. Good Luck to you and yay for babies!
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Post by doeeyedgirl on May 9, 2012 14:34:20 GMT -6
Thanks, Sarah!
That's cool, Cake.....you kind of have a theme/story to go along with the kiddos.
It's so hard to wait. LOL. I find myself seeing babies everywhere! Looking at all the baby stuff! Imagining what life would be like. I know that my DH is in the same boat. He doesn't have any kids, by blood, he loves mine like his own.
It's so hard when everyone has their two cents, too. My mom made a comment a month or so ago about how we have to get our lives in order first. What do you mean? We have a house, reliable vehicles, stable jobs and a stable family life. What more is there? I never really asked her what she meant.
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Post by supermommy on May 9, 2012 14:35:53 GMT -6
Yup...we discussed this at your place. I think you should go for it in July! I have it so bad but with the move I am unsure if we will go ahead with our plans to get pregnant in July or not. We had an accident last night though with the "birth control" hopefully it doesn't come to anything...I want to move first!
I know I am ready when I want sex all the time and it almost physically hurts me to think about a new baby...yup it's that intense for me! 18 months postpartum it has started both times...weird.
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Post by doeeyedgirl on May 9, 2012 14:43:11 GMT -6
I'm so happy you made your decision, Hannah...but kinda bummed you're moving. We could have done the preggo thing together! LOL!
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Post by love on May 9, 2012 14:49:05 GMT -6
I get it occasionally but then I snap back to reality LOL. I love love love having only one (for now), I won't go on about that since your not asking that question! You will figure it out soon! You did just get married, I would give it a few months if your fertile mertile. If not, maybe go off the pill and see what happens! The first few months of marriage are the best- enjoy them! No one can ever tell you when the time is right, go on a fun relaxing vacation with the fam, enjoy a few cocktails then end of summer- or july would be perfect! GL in whatever you choose! Before you do get knocked up I want to have a drink with you first tho
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Post by Samantha on May 9, 2012 14:56:57 GMT -6
My deciding factor had a lot to do with my dad actually. I really wanted another baby I just wasn't confidant about the timing and my dad said, "Its really never a good time, at least not for very long. Every phase of life has its struggles, might as well do it now while you're young!" So I stopped worrying about timing.. we wanted a kid so now we're working on getting (and staying) pregnant.
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Post by doeeyedgirl on May 9, 2012 15:09:48 GMT -6
I think that can be arranged, Love.
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Post by supermommy on May 9, 2012 15:40:16 GMT -6
I agree with Samantha....no time is really the perfect time and if it is it won't stay that way long...stuff is always coming up, things change. I do see that being just married it would be nice to take a few months to just be as you are and have some drinks :-) In my opinion either way is a win!
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Post by supermommy on May 9, 2012 15:41:25 GMT -6
and yes I agree..it would have been fun to be pregnant together! If things fall through, I will know where to find you! haha
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Post by doeeyedgirl on May 9, 2012 15:55:29 GMT -6
Some days I feel like I am trying to talk myself into it and some days I feel like I am trying to talk myself out. Either way, it's baby on the brain! LOL! I come up with things like: well, I only have this last pack of BC pills...do I renew for three more months? Don't want to waste them, if I do, so that puts me at August.
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Post by dara1012 on May 9, 2012 16:09:37 GMT -6
DS just turned 4 everyone has been asking me lately about when we'll have #2. In the last 2 days I have held an 8 week old and a 3 1/12 month old and have felt no desire to have another.
I am a really practical person and I think about, should I renew my BC pill when I run out? when will I be done w/ my thesis for grad school in time? But emotionally I don't really have a desire for a baby so for now I will wait until I feel that before trying.
My thought for you is....if you wait a few months and still have that emotional desire then go for it!
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Post by bumblebee23 on May 10, 2012 8:11:23 GMT -6
ROFL! Nope I had no plan both of mine were so NOT planned. I had to roll with the punches.
I have caught baby fever a few times. I think a lot of it was just that friends and other family where finally starting to have babies and such and it made me miss it a little. Sometimes I would dream about having a little girl and then I would watch something like "Teen Mom" or "16 & PG" or just talk to my sister and wonder what the hell I was thinking! LOL
I actually fought with myself back and forth about having another one but in the end, even with sometimes dreaming of having another one, I am glad we decided not to. Life is so unpredictable and DH has been between jobs the last couple years that with a little one it would have put some serious extra strain on us. Plus I came to the conclusion that I am ok raising two boys. They are older now and we all have more freedoms and I really don't think I could have started all over again.
My advice is to really think long and hard about your decision like I did and make sure it is right for you. If it is I wish you all the best of luck!!!!
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