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Post by stacyl on May 24, 2012 8:58:12 GMT -6
This is something that is really bothering me. Im not looking for advice, just your opinion on the matter. When I got married and had my showers, I was told PROPER wedding etiquette is - you only invite people the the showers and such that you are inviting to the wedding. If I was invited to someones bridal shower, but not their wedding, I would think "I'm good enough to attend your shower but not your wedding? " Well, my Bro is getting married next month. his soon to be wife if from WI, so that is where they are having the wedding. They will have a reception in MN to follow the wedding a week later for those that couldn't attend the wedding in WI. Here's what gets me. They are inviting people to showers, and parties that aren't even inviting to the wedding!! To me this says, "I just want as many gifts as possible." what is your take?
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Post by jrose on May 24, 2012 9:05:11 GMT -6
I think that's greedy because you know all they want is gifts, gifts, and more gifts.
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Post by supermommy on May 24, 2012 9:22:54 GMT -6
Yup I agree...it's just greedy. Although technically if they were invited to the wedding as well they would get even more gifts from them. I would not attend a shower for a wedding I was not invited to.
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Post by irish on May 24, 2012 9:26:44 GMT -6
Ditto, it just sounds greedy. There's no way I'd attend a shower if I wasn't invited to the wedding!!
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Post by dara1012 on May 24, 2012 9:29:26 GMT -6
I would not attend a wedding shower for a wedding I wasn't invited to. To me showers are for your closest friends and family only with the exception of a shower at work.
At work I will host a shower for someone I supervise even if we are not invited to the wedding, but that is different because it is not requested by the bride or groom but a nice gesture from supervisor and co-workers.
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Post by fungirls on May 24, 2012 9:41:43 GMT -6
I think it's greedy also, and I wouldn't go. We once got an invite to a wedding in Idaho, a week before the wedding. Yeah, thanks for all the notice and time for planning. I was invited to her shower, which was in MN, while she remained in Idaho. I didn't go to the shower either since she couldn't even bother to attend her own shower.
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Post by bumblebee23 on May 24, 2012 12:03:34 GMT -6
It does sound incredibly greedy to me and kind of rude too.
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Post by stacyl on May 24, 2012 12:18:16 GMT -6
I'm am SO SO glad to know I'm not alone. My future SIL and I don't have the kind of relationship where I could simply ask her or comment about it, but I have said something to my mom about it, and have talked in length about it to my sister. I wonder how many of her shower guests have had the same thought?!
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Post by laurac on May 24, 2012 14:02:33 GMT -6
One time we were invited to the wedding, but not the reception. They flat out told us that. Well, if we aren't good enough for the reception then you aren't getting a gift from us at the wedding!
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Post by ReneeW on May 24, 2012 15:08:35 GMT -6
You're absolutely 100% right -- if someone isn't invited to the wedding, then they are not expected to attend a shower (and should not be invited to one). It is generally perceived to be a ploy to get gifts, and is in very poor taste.
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Post by dara1012 on May 24, 2012 16:15:28 GMT -6
The only thing I thought to add is DH's cousin is getting married in hawaii this fall, it will only be her, her fiance and their parents (not even siblings are invited) at the wedding. In December they are having a reception. I will be fine going to her shower knowing I am not invited to the wedding but to the reception.
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Post by colleen on May 25, 2012 20:08:50 GMT -6
HA! This just happened to me. I was invited to the shower, just found out I wasn't invited to the wedding. He's my first cousin. I wish I could take my bridal shower gift back! I'm sure it was his finance, but still! Both live in MN. So I think it is completely rude.
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Post by cakemakermom on May 26, 2012 10:52:27 GMT -6
My mother was being invited to relatives weddings that she's not seen in years. Can we say, trying to get every present we can?
I thought the bridal shower was for the wedding party ladies and the closest relatives that would be at the wedding.
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Post by bunsy on May 26, 2012 11:09:05 GMT -6
Rude UNLESS it is a very small, immediate family-only wedding.
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Post by supermommy on May 26, 2012 22:37:27 GMT -6
Yeah if you are still invited to the reception but not the ceremony it's okay too in my opinion....but I don't care for the ceremonies anyway.
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