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Post by stacyl on Jun 8, 2012 16:15:29 GMT -6
So, I am a SAHM 95% of the time. I do have a PT job, but it only gets me out of the house 4-12 hours a week. A majority of the time I am a single mother. (i feel like it anyway) my husband works 6 days a week. anyway, tonight DH was invited over to a friends house. People who I thought were MY friends too. But, anyway. He got invited over there for a bbq/ bonfire and I wasn't included in the invite. Honestly, my feeling are a little hurt. I didnt mention anything to DH because I didn't want to be invited out of pity. But it hurt my feelings. And today is one of those days I really need a break from DD. It bothers me because this couple,(I was friends with her first, and we have been friends for 12 years!!) Her fiance met my husband through me. And she met my DH through me!
Would you have let your friends or DH know that your feeling were hurt?
Thanks for lettin
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Post by stacyl on Jun 8, 2012 16:15:46 GMT -6
* me vent a little.
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Post by dara1012 on Jun 8, 2012 17:30:26 GMT -6
I find it odd that your DH would be invited over to another couple's house and you not be invited. I understand when I go out with my friend that DH is friend's with too and it is just girls night, but if it is not your DH and her fiancee that is odd to me. I would definitely let DH know that your feelings were hurt and I would also probably call my friend and let her know. It may have been a misunderstanding and you were invited but DH didn't realize it.
Sorry your feelings are hurt....hope you can do something good for yourself this weekend.
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Post by danikasmom on Jun 8, 2012 19:26:32 GMT -6
I would at least let your DH know. I would feel hurt too!!
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Post by sarahisis on Jun 8, 2012 20:49:06 GMT -6
I think it's a little weird too... I'd bring it up to dh; let him know how you are feeling and ask why? My feelings probably would've been a bit hurt too.
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Post by laurac on Jun 11, 2012 10:00:50 GMT -6
Mine would be too. No question.
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Post by ReneeW on Jun 11, 2012 10:17:12 GMT -6
If I had to guess, I bet that you WERE actually invited but the message got lost somewhere. I would say to my friend, "Oh, how was the bonfire?" and see what your friend says. If she says, 'Oh, I wish you could have come' then you'll know you were invited. Or maybe they assumed you couldn't come because you'd have to stay home with DD. Or who knows what, but I would think that if they're truly your friends of COURSE they wanted you there. You should mention it to your DH. He may tell you that your friend wasn't even there, maybe it was just her fiance, so they didn't think you'd want to go if she wasn't home. My guess is that you weren't excluded but there were other circumstances or something else going on (she wasn't there, you were actually invited, they assumed you'd have to stay home with DD, etc.).
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Post by stacyl on Jun 11, 2012 15:59:04 GMT -6
I DID talk to DH about it, when he came home that night. I said "Maybe next time your friends will invite me over too." He had NO IDEA that I wasn't invited. (that's the way he acted) We didn't get into any further then that.
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Post by laurac on Jun 12, 2012 7:16:34 GMT -6
I'm a little surprised he went, Stacy. I don't think my DH would have gone without me, especially if they are 'couple' friends.
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Post by nevaehsmom327 on Jun 13, 2012 12:27:21 GMT -6
i'm with LC on that one. I know DH doesn't really LIKE going places without me either. I mean, sometimes he does but when it's going to a friends for dinner or bonfire etc, he likes to make sure i'm included.
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Post by bumblebee23 on Jun 13, 2012 14:44:41 GMT -6
Are you sure they didn't invite him over with the intention of inviting you all over as a family? A lot of times DH or I will be invited somewhere and we know that the invitation is also extended to the rest of us. Maybe that is where the confusion is. I find it hard to beleive they would be so rude as to invite your husband over and not you. Maybe you should talk to the friend about it.
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