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Post by sharon on Aug 3, 2012 14:51:58 GMT -6
Alipski - you guys need to hang out with more GLBT families!
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Post by alipski on Aug 5, 2012 13:18:35 GMT -6
I agree! My husband's brother is gay and his sister is a women's rights activist, so at least he always feels like he can be himself there and there is nobody judging our "roles" so to speak.
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Post by sharon on Aug 5, 2012 13:23:42 GMT -6
I was thinking about this - because It's not as if we only hang out with other Queer fams - we hang out with a lot of hets. But in our circle of people it's nothing like what you describe, with everyone dividing into conversations and interests based on gender. I don't think it's exclusively a Queer benefit, but it is culturally real in our community.
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Post by alipski on Aug 5, 2012 19:02:16 GMT -6
I don't think they divide based on gender purposefully, and the men and women definitely have fun and interact with everyone, I think if they knew he felt like he didn't quite fit in with the other guys they would accept him regardless. I think that there are many people who are just being themselves and don't realize they have that little bit of division. I just feel bad for those couples that fall in that traditional role where the Mom is the one who does all the work around the house and with the kids. It's sad when I'm considered "Lucky" to have a husband who helps out as much as he does. If he didn't, I would demand it. We are called partners for a reason, we BOTH help each other out . I'm getting off subject a bit here... lol
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Post by sharon on Aug 5, 2012 19:11:11 GMT -6
I agree. My BF has a husband who is very much a partner and a great father and they are very much a team in child rearing and everything else. I think it's awesome, but also am surprised how rare it is. I'm glad that is the example my son sees most of what fathering is.
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Post by dara1012 on Aug 5, 2012 19:17:41 GMT -6
I don't have an issue with DS preferring more stereotypical boy toys or "acting like a boy" (he currently thinks underwear is the funniest word ever). I just want him to know that he can do whatever he wants and girls can do whatever they want and don't need to be limited by "girl" things or "boy" things. Today he asked why some boys wear earrings and necklaces and why girls wear fingernail polish and boys don't, so he is definitely noticing that there tend to be differences but it offers a good time for us to talk about it. We did establish today that boys have penis' and girls don't.
All of our friends who are parents, both parents are very involved in raising their children. There really isn't a gender divide. I am very thankful for the extra effort that DH puts in with DS when I am in school. If I had to do all daycare drop off/pick up, baths, laundry, grocery shopping, etc. I couldn't do work and school. I think the term "partner" is the most important one in a marriage or long-term relationship. Working together in partnership to parent is important.
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Post by sharon on Aug 14, 2012 19:35:45 GMT -6
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