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Post by apryllraye87 on Sept 23, 2012 11:04:01 GMT -6
I don't know if this is just a stage DS is going through, or if he is acting out because of the recent changes in our house, or maybe it is both? He has started to whine constantly again. He used to whine a lot when he was about 3 and we worked with him on it and he eventually stopped. He hadn't done it for a long time and now he does it every. single. time. he doesn't get his way.
He also repeats himself over and over and over again. Example; today I found out that he had written on my bathroom wall with marker. I was frustrated and told him that I was not happy and that I was going to have to think of a consequence because he knows better than that. He then proceeded to tell me he didn't do it. Instead of just saying it once he said "I didn't do that!" 4 times. I finally said he needed to stop saying that or he was going to get in more trouble for lying and he then said it about 3 more times. I got frustrated and told him to stop repeating himself and that he only needed to say things once and that I had heard him the first time. He then said it another 3-4 times before I finally told him to go in time out.
He will do the same thing if he is misbehaving and I tell him to go to his room, he will repeat "I don't want to!" over and over again.
How can I break him of these habits?? When he was younger and would whine I would tell him that I wasn't going to answer him unless he talked in a normal voice. That doesn't work so well now because he just whines more. I try to ignore it but whining is one of my biggest pet peeves, it is like nails on a chalkboard to me!
I end up losing my temper and yelling, and then I feel guilty. I'm extra stressed right now because I have so much to do and work has been crazy so I just feel like I'm about to explode all the time. Any tips for keeping my cool??
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Post by jrose on Sept 23, 2012 11:12:05 GMT -6
I wish I knew because DD1 has been throwing tantrums every time she doesn't get her way also. I have to sit her in her room slightly shut the door and walk away otherwise I'll lose my temper. DH has been working 7 days a week so hardly gets to spend time with the kids. She gets upset when DH tells her he has to go to work. She isn't as bad when DH is home. So it could be a stage or the lack of time she gets with DH. I think she also purposely tries to push my buttons too. It's frustrating...you're not alone!
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Post by apryllraye87 on Sept 23, 2012 11:22:34 GMT -6
Nice to know I'm not alone! I'm thinking it is probably somewhat of a stage but also that he isn't getting as much time with his dad now.
I will put him in his room and walk away and he will scream and throw things.. I've tried calmly walking in there and taking the toy he throws and putting it in a bag, and then he just flips out even more.
I'm hoping once he adjusts to the changes that will help..
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Post by cakemakermom on Sept 23, 2012 11:38:08 GMT -6
My 6 year old still goes into whining fits. I continue to go back to the "I can't hear you when you're talking that way" when he does it. Most of the time he'll calm down and talk normal, but if he doesn't stop, then he gets sent to his room "to calm down". When in all reality it's so I can calm down.
Good luck!
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Post by cakemakermom on Sept 23, 2012 11:39:45 GMT -6
Oh, and if he wants to throw his things, I'd let him. If they break then they'll get thrown away and he'll learn the consequences of throwing things. I wouldn't go in until he's calmed down though...
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Post by ReneeW on Sept 24, 2012 9:52:49 GMT -6
Ugh, I hate it when my kids go through a whiny stage. My response is usually, "When you whine I'm not going to respond," or "If you whine the answer is no." The 7YO lately has been saying "NO!" to everything ("It's time to clean up honey." "NO!" .... "It's time to leave." "NO!") so we've had to talk to her about how she'll have consequences if this keeps up. I told her, "Instead you can say, 'May I please finish this game?' or 'Can we please stay two more minutes?'" etc. instead of just responding with this annoying, sassy "NO!" URGH. I think you just have to stay consistent, keep working at it, never give in to the whine or he'll keep doing it etc. and eventually tell yourself, "This too shall pass." and my favorite, "Serenity now."
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Post by doeeyedgirl on Sept 24, 2012 10:31:26 GMT -6
Just wanted to say I sympathize and my DS2 (who's 4) acts the same way. Especially with the repetition and tantrums.
Wish I had the answer, but I don't. I will be lurking to see the advice and praying for patience for all us mamas dealing with this issue.
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