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Post by ReneeW on Oct 8, 2012 14:39:35 GMT -6
OK seriously. My friend's fourth grade son had a girl send him a video. At first I thought it wasn't that bad, she was lip synching to a song ... OK. Whatever. But THEN. Hold your breath. But THEN she pans down and A) she is wearing a little BIKINI and B) she does a slow pan down her body, pans up and does a sexy HAIR FLIP and C) this girl is NINE. YEARS. OLD.
AND -- kicker -- her MOM is walking around in the background so she obviously is fully aware of the whole thing!! Holy shmoly I was stunned. I mean ... seriously?!? Seriously?!?
Am I (and my friend) overreacting? I thought it was so completely inappropriate I could hardly stand it. If I thought the mom didn't know about it I would have said to my friend, "You should talk to the other mom" but obviously the mom knew what her daughter was doing. I have to say I am still just speechless about the entire thing. I mean, the girl is NINE.
Maybe this is just a sad, sad reflection on our society and how we're raising girls today, who are raised thinking their worth is connected to being "sexy" and having boys like them etc. Makes me kind of want to CRY. I just am still so, so sad about this, that a 9YO girl would feel like she would want to make a sexy video to send to a boy she likes. Is it too much exposure to guys singing to bikini-clad girls in videos? Is it just the overall society making girls sex objects? UGH. UGH. and ... wait for it ... UGH.
What's your take?
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Post by dara1012 on Oct 8, 2012 14:43:28 GMT -6
Wow! This is very scary. 9 year olds should not be "sexy" in any way, shape or form. If I were your friend I would talk to this girls mom (even though she seemed to know) and I would have a conversation w/ my son about respecting women, healthy relationships with his peers, etc. This is not okay, at.all.
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Post by sharon on Oct 8, 2012 14:49:03 GMT -6
Is it possible the mom knew she was messing around and singing, but didn't really see the video and the effect?
I do think we've just become very use to the sexualization of young girls in our society. I agree that it's inappropriate and sad.
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Post by jrose on Oct 8, 2012 16:33:20 GMT -6
9 yrs old?!? That is just wrong and so so so young! I say your friend should go talk to the mom anyway and let her know whether the mom knows or not! Its just not right  |
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Post by angel22 on Oct 8, 2012 19:46:56 GMT -6
Ugh! When my brother was about that age I found a bunch of letters to him from a girl in his class that were WAY too sexy for a 9 year old! She was writing things to him that I wouldn't even say to my boyfriend of the time!
I'm thinking along the same lines as Sharon here, maybe the girl's mom didn't actually know about the video part or what exactly the girl was doing. I'd start by talking to the other mom and based on her reaction, go from there. More importantly, though, I'd talk to your son about what the girl did and how it isn't acceptable.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!
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