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Post by ReneeW on Oct 16, 2012 16:21:54 GMT -6
(HUGS) to you. That is crazy. I think you should take a sick day if necessary (I mean, really--this is worth a sick day!) and sit down face to face to hash this out. You may want to get a counselor if possible, even if not to reconcile to help you navigate this difficult time. But yes, having babies is a deal breaker and if you two aren't on the same page, it may be best to cut your losses in as civil a way as is possible.
And yes, you keep the ring. Returning rings is only if a fiancee breaks an engagement--you two are married for goodness sake.
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Post by doeeyedgirl on Oct 17, 2012 7:13:42 GMT -6
Thanks so much, ladies, for being here for me. I draw so much strength from all of you and am blessed to have you.
A little update: DH and I sat down and talked yesterday, cordially. We have both agreed that this may be for the best. He wants another child, I don't want to take that away from him. His way of living and mine just don't click. And I feel as if these last two years have taken away from my children so much, I want to solely focus on them. I will be starting to move my things back to my house this weekend and even though I am sad about this whole mess, I know that I can now return to the person that I really am: a happy, go-lucky person who can put all this negativity behind me.
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Post by laurac on Oct 17, 2012 7:26:05 GMT -6
I'm so sorry, Cyndy. I'm glad you talked rationally about it and you feel you're at a good place to move on. And that you know you can make it on your own. That's important. I'm glad you have a place to go back to. {{HUGS}}
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Post by irish on Oct 17, 2012 7:58:32 GMT -6
I'm so sorry hun. I have no words of wisdom, but just wanted to offer lots of virtual love and hugs! I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by dara1012 on Oct 17, 2012 8:08:20 GMT -6
Cyndy- glad you were able to talk through it together and glad you still have your house to go home to. Best wishes to you and the boys. Sending you virtual hugs and support.
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Post by bumblebee23 on Oct 17, 2012 11:49:34 GMT -6
Oh sweety I am so so very sorry. I can't imagine how hard this is for you. However, you said it yourself you haven't been who you are and things have affected your boys. Focus on that, be happy, and know we are here for you!
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Post by sarahisis on Oct 17, 2012 13:33:43 GMT -6
If you need help with anything or just some company.. let me know!!
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Post by sarahisis on Oct 19, 2012 13:08:15 GMT -6
Thinkin about ya... how are you doing?
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Post by merrr on Oct 22, 2012 8:21:09 GMT -6
Thinking about you <3
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Post by laurac on Oct 23, 2012 7:50:29 GMT -6
Thinking about you, Cyndy..
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Post by doeeyedgirl on Oct 23, 2012 14:19:41 GMT -6
I want to sincerely thank each and every one of you for all of your thoughts, kind words, prayers and everything else you ladies have offered. Here's a little bit of an update. This last week, along with the last two months, seemed to be like hell. To spare you the nitty gritty details, after a VERY emotional day on Friday, DH and I have agreed that we need counseling and that being without each other just didn't seem right. I have stepped back and realized that yes, he was guilty, but my emotions and actions had played right along into it, also. So, as of Sunday, we have completely reconciled and have talked more than I ever thought possible about many things. We have agreed that we have many steps to take in order to build a stronger relationship and have committed to doing so. We both felt foolish that it had to get as far as me moving out, only to move back in again, but we also feel like we are closer and more in love than we were before all this started. Again, thanks ladies so much for your support and please continue to pray for us as we stabilize the building blocks of our marriage.
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Post by laurac on Oct 23, 2012 14:53:09 GMT -6
Good to hear, Cyndy!
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Post by ballerinamomma on Oct 23, 2012 14:53:47 GMT -6
Good for you Cyndy!! I'm happy for you!!
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Post by lilmermaid on Oct 23, 2012 16:06:59 GMT -6
Good for you two!
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Post by ReneeW on Oct 23, 2012 18:00:21 GMT -6
Oh, that is good news. Just make sure you get that counseling started NOW while you're in the "honeymoon" period, because I think it's tougher for men to talk to a counselor and he may later feel like, "Nah, we don't really need that anymore," when we ALL know that he definitely needs to deal with his mother/boundary issues!! That being said, I'm so happy that the two of you have reconnected in a deep and powerful way and are working toward making your marriage stronger than ever.
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