Update on my newly single life!

[apryllraye87]

Hi ladies, I'm back again! I'll probably be posting here and there with different issues that come up as I re-arrange my newly single life My ex and I broke up 2.5 months ago. The first few weeks were the hardest and I couldn't go more than a few hours without crying. Slowly it got easier and easier and now I'm to the point where I don't cry at all, don't even miss him, and I'm content and excited to see what this new life has to bring.

He, on the other hand, was not upset initially and was out partying & hanging out with lots of girls, basically completely reverted back to his high school days. He hasn't seen DS in 2 weeks and pretty much ignored me anytime I'd ask him when he was going to see him.

I went out on Saturday with my friends and since we have a lot of mutual friends he ended up being there too. As soon as he saw me I could tell in his face he knew he missed me. I just tried to avoid him the rest of the night and we didn't talk at all. He started texting me yesterday trying to flirt with me and wanted me to come hangout with him. Of course I said no and kept the conversation short.

I know that I won't ever take him back but it still makes my stomach a little uneasy because I know it's only a matter of time until he starts trying to come back and I need to be strong enough to say no. I still care about him, and probably always will, but I can't go through that again. It isn't healthy for anyone involved, especially DS.

I've been trying to remind myself of all the reasons we broke up in the first place. It's a little hard not to get sucked into talking to him because he's familiar and comfortable and it feels good, but I know it isn't healthy. I just want to focus on DS and paying off debt & improving our lives.

I know that it probably isn't possible but hopefully someday we can just be good friends and leave it at that. I can imagine, right?

[irish]

Good for you for being so strong!! Keep up the good work You're doing a wonderful job, and you should be very proud of yourself!

[laurac]

WTG Apryll! It's got to be tough, especially since you were together for so long and know the same people. And I'm sure those same people don't hesitate to tell you what he's been up to even though you don't want to know.
You're doing a great job and your focus is right where it should be!

[dara1012]

Good job Apryll! You are doing such a good job taking care of you and DS. Keep it up!

[ReneeW]

I agree--keep in mind the long term life goals that you have and what you want your life to look like in one, five, and 10 years from now. Stay tough and do what's right for YOU. And sometimes (unfortunately) what's right for you is the harder path. But you can do it!!!

[apryllraye87]

Thanks ladies I'm feeling pretty confident that I'll be just fine!

And yes LC unfortunately with having almost all mutual friends I hear a lot more than I'd like to!

[lilmermaid]

Good for you!

[nevaehsmom327]

Stay strong girl, do what you need to for DS.

[jess7882]

Good for you Apryll!!! Way to stick to your guns, and realizing it is not a good situation all around. Lots of people don't realize that.

[merrr]

[doeeyedgirl]

So glad to hear that you have accepted everything and are ready to move on to bigger and better things. Stay strong, girl!