Dd doesn't like her hair brushed

[jlschlangen]

My dd is 6 and she has longish hair. She doesn't like her hair brushed. IF she doesn't do it we end up brushing it for her. How do you get your kids to brush their hair? She usually uses my brushes. She does have her own. She usually doesn't use those.

TIA

[bunsy]

Dd didn't brush her long hair on her own until she was much older. It always got one good brushing from me each day. Kids just don't always get thru all the layers which leads to tangles.

[jrose]

Cut it shorter, it's easier to maintain. DD1 doesn't like her hair brushed either. She likes short hair because it's easier she says. We also tell her that if she doesn't do a good brush in the morning then the tangles get worse and the brushing hurts even more. She does pretty good using her detangle spray and combing her hair every day, it's becoming more of a routine for her now.

[quirky22]

Brushing your hair is NOT an option in my house! PERIOD.

you are the parent. you make the rules.

[sharon]

My long hair secrets:

Pull it back into a braid or pony tail for sleeping. There will be few tangles in the morning which makes it easier to brush.

When bathing, brush through the conditioner. This gets out the tangles easily and painlessly.

[jrose]

I agree with the brushing while conditioner is still in or right after you wash it out, we do it right after we wash it out of DD's hair.

[bunsy]

DD had waist length hair. I combed the conditioner through it while she was in the tub and then was careful not to rub the hair but squeeze it in the towel.

She also knew that if she didn't let me brush her hair, then it would have to be shorter. She wanted her hair long so she submitted to the work required to maintain it.

[deannemdm]

I used infusium-23 leave in conditioner (put it in spray bottle) before I brushed it. Eventually she will do it, has hard time maintaining smoother hair at 11 yet. It has been cut shorter (just above shoulders) and if she won't do it-- i will--and she doesn't like the way I do it-- she thinks it hurts maore because I get through all the layers, not just the top ones like she does.

[cakemakermom]

We have a particular brush that doesn't hurt as much, those cheap Goody ones that have the bristles instead of the big "no pain" brush that actually hurts more...

I also have my dd's hair cut short because she refuses to take care of long hair. It hurts her scalp to brush it. We also use that detangler to help with it when it's really tangled or wet.

I also have to get on her to brush it twice a day so that it doesn't get as tangled. If she keeps up with it, it won't hurt as bad.

When she can take care of her hair, she can dictate the length, but for now, seeing that she doesn't want to take care of it, I get to dictate the length.

[dara1012]

I would agree with the other ladies. If I had a DD the rule would be that I had to brush her hair really well at morning and night or she would have short hair. There are lots of cute styles for little girls that are above the shoulders.

[lilmermaid]

I echo what most have posted.
If they want long hair they must let me help with the brushing. I let them start and then I finish up to make sure all tangles are out.
Detangler and conditioner are musts!

[jlschlangen]

Ok thanks ladies. I might have to take her in for a longer trim than usual. I might get a different brush, use the detangler more, conditioner more. Usually dd wants her hair in a ponytail, but not brushed. Dh says if you start a few inches from the bottom then work your way up for dd it works better too.

[katie]

My daughter used to cry every time I brushed her hair. I finally bought the tangle teezer. Brush from Sally's beauty supply and now she doesn't cry. It gets through the tangles but doesn't pull her hair. Money well spent

[jlschlangen]

Thanks Katie I might have to look into one of those brushes.

[angel22]

I'm with Quirky and Sharon.
Brushing is not an option and if they want their hair to stay long they need to take care of it properly and I am always more than happy to help them brush it out. I put DD2's thick, butt-length hair in braids quite often. DD1 got really bad about brushing her hair properly and not letting me do anything with it so we ended up having a few inches cut off and added a few layers. It helped a lot.
My girls always get conditioner at bathtime and, if needed, detangler spray for regualr brushing. I don't pile their hair on their heads for washing nor rinsing. We don't rub hair dry, we squeeze. We don't wash hair everyday because it drys it out. We try to put ponytails or braids in before any major playtime, activity, or when swimming and comb through or brush out hair as soon after as possible.