Moving away and moving on... hopefully...

[apryllraye87]

I don't have any advice but I'm sorry you're going through this! (((HUGS)))

[dara1012]

BTW not trying to be discouraging, b/c I really want you to be able to move on and do what is best for you. I just don't want you to do something that has a lot of negative consequences for you to sort out.

[gwensmama9206]

Yeah it would be nice to have another friend down there! I have my best friend down there and my adopted family (which I consider more my family than my actual family). I just think it would be really good to have the change. To do something to make mine and my children's lives better. I just feel like that's never going to happen up here. Even before I ever had my children I never wanted to stay in MN forever.

[gwensmama9206]

Dara, DD's BD has no legal rights or visitation rights towards her what so ever. So he can't say anything or do anything about me moving. If he were to take me to court after I had moved they would most likely set up some sort of visitation where DD would come spend a month out of the summer up here with him or something like that.

[gwensmama9206]

I just wish I would've listened to my head when it was telling me to leave him and get the marriage annulled BEFORE DS was born I'm really kicking myself in the a$$ for not doing that. But I was just clinging to the hope that things would get better. Stupid, stupid, stupid.

[lilmermaid]

Sorry you are dealing with all this....HUGS!

[nevaehsmom327]

Melissa, you're not stupid, and you haven't made a stupid decision. You're a very smart girl, caught in some crappy situations. The best you can do is learn from what you've done, and move on from it. We both know Mike probably won't change, and while I haven't met DDs BD, from what I hear he's not the greatest either. But my biggest advice for you, is to take your time with a decision like this. Make SUUURE you're doing the right thing for YOU, and for the kids. And make sure you don't get yourself in trouble with the law. I wish I had more for you to help you with, just know that the Olson's LOVE YOU!

[apryllraye87]

I didn't know your BD's name is Mike.. so is mine.. they have the same name and they pretty much act the same way! Immature jerks.

[nevaehsmom327]

haha...i've met sooooo many "Mikes" over the years, and no matter who they are, I immediately think "asshole"

I know 2 really awesome mikes. 1. sarah's hubby and 2. a dude i work with. that's it though lol

[sarahisis]

<3

[gwensmama9206]

Thanks ladies

Amy, I'm definitely not going soon. I want the divorce and all debts I have taken care of before I officially start planning it. I want to get my life together before I make a big change like that. We love you guys too!!

Mikes suck. My sperm donor is named Mike too. Lol

Yeah DD's dad sucks at life too but his BS drama is no where near the level of DS's dad.

[sarahisis]

I just hope everything works out the way you want it to!!!!

and I know a few good Mike's... for me, it's Chris' that have been the issue lol

[jrose]

I dont have much advice but agree with the rest of the ladies! Hugs to you!

[ballerinamomma]

I agree with all the other ladies!

But I also wanted to say id love for you to move closer to us! I can keep an eye out for jobs, daycares, etc. and, I can definitely tell you where the best schools are!!

[jlschlangen]

Don't rush into anything. Thinking of you. Best wishes to you. Take care. Good luck to you. <Hugs to you>