I bid you farewell

[quirky22]

I re-joined MoM's after a few mom's encouraged it.

I've been here for a few months now, and basically, my feelings haven't changed.
I feel little or no support, and things are still rather "cliquey".....

I wish you all the best.....

[bumblebee23]

Are you leaving again? I'm sorry to hear that. I don't always feel like I am part of the clique and often feel detached and wishing I had a better bond with the moms that some of them seem to have but I am still here trying to make that bond. Wish you would rethink leaving.

[jlschlangen]

That is a bummer that you want to leave again. I wish you would reconsider. Ppl aren't always going to like what you have to say I have found that out b4.

[AuntSueto4]

I've tried to be as supportive as I can be to everyone here, and previously to MLM, since October 2009, and have been on almost every day (unless computer problems).

I just posted on one of your other threads support for you, just yesterday or early this morning. (the post about your inlaw's).

Sorry your leaving.

[momof3anddog]

I have never belonged to a group of women of any sort where there is not always "cliques" and others get along with some better than others. It is a fact of women's relationships. Some people have more time to forge strong relationships with women, some just get along better with more kinds of women than others, or have personalities that just "fit" better with the people that are "active" members of whatever group. I am often not one of those women. Sometimes I wish I was, sometimes I don't. You need to do what you need to do. If this group if causing more harm than good for you, then "unjoin" or whatever the proper term is. But I think that you should also look at having reasonable expectations of an on-line group. It cannot be all things for all people. You post a response, you're going to get different answers. Some people are not on for long periods of time, or miss a posting, where they would post exactly what you need or want to hear. No matter how you cut it an "on-line" group isn't perfect. Just like in-person female friendships. It is "rare" that many of us find that woman friend who is a true friend that can say things to us that we need to hear even when we don't want to hear it and do it in such a way that it doesn't cut your inner spirit. I have had one or two of those friendships -- I treasure them and work on them so they last -- when I can, as I have so much on my plate with working full-time, having three children, who have special needs at times, and even a dog that has special needs, and a house that implodes on a regular basis (did I mention that my sewer main broke a few months ago -- you don't want to know that that cost or the stress level of getting it fixed so that I could keep up with laundry for potty training and stomach virus hit twins). For me this group is when I can find time and need to be on it. I have met several women on-line that I thought, "Oh... I'd really like to get to know this person better and more in-person. But the reality is that it is not possible for me right now and probably isn't for them either. All of us have stuff going on in our lives that we have to attend to. All of us. I hope that doesn't sound critical of you. It isn't meant to be. It is just something I have been working on for a while -- looking at my expectations of everyone and everything. Is my high standards for myself really even reasonable? Is it reasonable to expect that of other people and other things. Often I think it is not. And if I let that go -- viola -- stress level down. Not perfectly down. But down. So give yourself a break that you are not finding exactly everything what you need here. Are you finding anything that you need or want? If not, then go. If yes, then stay.

[AuntSueto4]

Dec 28, 2012 9:17:19 GMT -6 coralsmom said:

Well said momof3anddog

I agree too, well said, momof3anddog.