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Post by Samantha on Mar 28, 2013 7:55:04 GMT -6
I work as a dog and cat groomer in a little salon. Lately we've become swamped. I run the shop alone once a week and whenever the owner and her husband go on trips. Well all of a sudden I have massive amounts of anxiety and stress when I even THINK about work. It's starting to consume me and I am completely miserable. I hate working by myself and I'm in constant fear i can't handle the work load even though I can handle it and I do. I just cannot get a hold on this anxiety and I don't know what to do. The owner is like family and she's stressed about the work load... obviously we need to hire help. The money is great and the hours are flexible, I make more working three days then my husband does in two weeks. So I don't really want to give it up but at this point, the money isn't worth the stress. My husband has agreed to come to work with me on the days I'm there alone but I feel like that's unfair too because he would like to relax on his days off. I'm trying to suck it up and get a handle on this stress but its affecting my sleep and I've constantly got this ball of dread sitting heavily in my stomach and when I'm at work I just want to cry and walk out. I don't know what to do, I feel like I'm at my breaking point. I've been dealing with this intense anxiety for about a week now and it may just be part of this pregnancy.. I don't know. Do I leave and get a job thats less stressful but pays much less, which will lead me to happiness? Or do I stay and try to manage it and see if it passes? What do you think?
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Post by onlyoneboy on Mar 28, 2013 8:14:06 GMT -6
Oh, no. Now is the time you need to relax and try to let things go. I don't have much advice just remember you are only one person and you can only do so much. I recite the serenity prayer when I feel overwhelmed. Good Luck, don't do anything rash that you may regret later.
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Post by sarahisis on Mar 28, 2013 8:47:26 GMT -6
Talk to your doc...maybe there's an anti anxiety med that you can safely ttake... even temporarily, til things start to lighten up at work.
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Post by laurac on Mar 28, 2013 9:00:53 GMT -6
You have a lot on your plate right now. I'm guessing you love your job. I think a conversation with your boss is in order. Tell her, I love my job, but I am so stressed even thinking about work right now that it's causing me to lose sleep and being pregnant, I need to remain as calm as possible. Tell her you really don't want to quit but you also can't handle it like it is. Hiring someone else is def the answer. When it's busy, and things are going to be hectic during the day, think of one thing that you can do at the end of your shift that is calming, that you look forward to so that you can make it through the day for that one thing. Your mind is a powerful tool and right now it has to remain positive. Your life is way too short to do something that stresses you out.
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Post by Samantha on Mar 28, 2013 9:06:54 GMT -6
I just want to cry and throw up and I can't manage it at all! Do any of you think finding a new job would be good for me? I'm in school to do something in the medical field so I feel like I also need to get on the right path and get a job in a medical environment.
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Post by sarahisis on Mar 28, 2013 9:24:07 GMT -6
It could go other way... I was in your spot years ago... minus a pregnancy.... but my anxiety was high, couldn't stop crying, nauseous... couldn't eat or sleep... so I quit my job, and went to work for the state (group home) I got through training and it turn out changing jobs made the anxiety worse... I had to go see my doc...unannounced, and was put on lexapro for 6 months....
Not trying to scare you but sometimes change is more stressful. I'd try talking to your boss... like lc said.
What part of the medical field are you in school for?
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Post by Samantha on Mar 28, 2013 9:26:11 GMT -6
I'm contemplating entering the nursing program or the medical assisting program. I'm meeting with a counselor soon to get on the right path for schooling.
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Post by sweetpeamom25 on Mar 28, 2013 9:37:19 GMT -6
I agree with others, try talking to your boss. I also agree that change such as a new job can be stressful as well and could make things worse. It sounds like they are busy, so this may not work, but could you cut back your hours at all? Or maybe just take some time off to relax and calm your nerves. It could just be the pregnancy making you extra anxious, so some relaxing time off might be in order for you.
Good luck and hang in there!!
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Post by Samantha on Mar 28, 2013 9:54:51 GMT -6
I feel so bad for my husband, he's like my life line.. all I do is want to cuddle with him and shut down. I just want him ALL the time. Luckily, he's awesome and seems to enjoy my neediness. I just want to calm down.. feel content. Hopefully a talk with my boss will help.
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Post by love on Mar 28, 2013 10:02:27 GMT -6
Aw sorry you're feeling this way. I'm wondering if its a mix of all sorts of things. Like being nervous about your pregnancy? You can safely take Zoloft while pregnant.... I would think adding school and or a new job would make you even more stressed. Take sometime to yourself. I think you love what you do you're just in a funk.
Also I'd talk to your dr. I have anxiety but thankfully I can manage it through a few different ways they have taught me. I'm so blessed I don't have to rely on medication ( only rarely if like I'm flying)
Hang in there. Def talk to the boss and just let her know how you feel. Sounds like you have a good relationship with her.
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Post by bumblebee23 on Mar 28, 2013 11:35:10 GMT -6
I have lots of anxiety too. It has calmed down for the most part but I remember when I was pg it was REALLY bad. I worried about everything to do with the pregnancy, what would happen after, if such and such would happen to my kid. It could just be your hormones making your anxiety level go crazy.
I would talk to your Dr first and see if there is an anti-anxiety med you can take. Maybe also talk to your boss and see if you can't get someone else in there to help you out.
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