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Post by laurac on Apr 8, 2013 9:19:02 GMT -6
The people who will be adopting this baby must be pretty special people.
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Post by apryllraye87 on Apr 8, 2013 10:31:39 GMT -6
How heartbreaking for that poor baby. I've never been in this situation so I won't judge but I really really can't understand something like this.
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Post by healerarina on Apr 8, 2013 12:56:32 GMT -6
I don't think I could do it, especially since it is a twin. I could understand financially why, but the couple must be seriously in the hole. But with 2 other kids, they knew what they were getting into. IMO, you took the risk of having a Special needs child when you made the decision to become pregnant. There are worse things than downs syndrome for a child to have.
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Post by katie on Apr 8, 2013 20:07:23 GMT -6
This really is sad to me. I had an aunt with Down Syndrome and have known others. They are the most LOVING people around. This family doesn't know the love they will miss out on.
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Post by mickeymk on Apr 9, 2013 11:48:46 GMT -6
Wow! I can certainly see both sides. I think God has given me an opportunity to realize that what some do is out of my control and I may not EVER understand why nor do I need to. I say this because had you asked me 2 or more years ago this very same question I too would have been thinking the same as some of you however, after the last 2 years I will try my darndest to not judge others for their decisions. None of us know what this family is dealing with. This could be the best decision they ever made for ALL of them and was probably not a decision they took lightly. It would break my heart to shreds to have to give up any of my babies BUT, my husband and I can only do so much. Not saying that I would ever do this but you just never know. I thank God that I have not ever had to make that choice.
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Post by laurac on Apr 9, 2013 12:06:49 GMT -6
Well said, Mick.
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Post by ballerinamomma on Apr 9, 2013 12:45:43 GMT -6
Very well said, mick.
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Post by apryllraye87 on Apr 9, 2013 14:10:51 GMT -6
I agree, Mick!
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Post by momof3anddog on Apr 9, 2013 15:30:48 GMT -6
I also agree with you Mickymk; I am sure that their decision was not as simple as just not wanting to have a Downs Syndrome Child; There may be other factors involved that aren't visible to the eye (lots of Down's Children have significant other health issues like on-going serious heart issues, compromised immune systems, etc... ). I know my friend is dealing with capping out their medical every year and having to have their child with Down's on MA as a back-up; Sometimes his physical care and getting to all his specialist appointments and getting him through all the surguries he needs to deal with his many issues is so expensive and exhausing that the family cannot afford even the basics for the rest of the family at times or has the physical energy to deal with other children's needs in the family as they happen. Maybe this family knows this and is trying to get him to a family that can meet his every need and knows that this family can do that. Knowing when you can't be all that your child needs and giving him up so that he or she can get what he needs, is sometimes the most loving, selfless act of parenting of all.
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Post by laurac on Apr 9, 2013 21:03:30 GMT -6
I agree, momof3.
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Post by jess7882 on Apr 9, 2013 21:39:27 GMT -6
Wow! This is just hard to fathom. I know that it is very hard to take care of a child with disabilities but I'd have such a hard time giving up a child. Children are work. It takes a lot of patience. I guess I'd rather they give up the child to a loving home where that can be provided then have it turn out bad.
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Post by mickeymk on Apr 10, 2013 11:25:41 GMT -6
agreed momof3, that is just what I was getting at.
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