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Post by bumblebee23 on Apr 16, 2013 11:44:26 GMT -6
My brother has an 8yo son. Him and his wife separated and divorced when he was still a toddler. She has since remarried and has his son calling her new husband dad and my brother by his first name. He doesn't even know we are his family just that my brother picks him up and comes to see us when he has him.
I don't think his child support has been lowered since the new law went into effect. He only gets to see his son for a couple hours on Sundays and wants more visitation. When I asked him about it he said she can take him to court whenever she wants but he has to pay to bring her to court. He wants more visitation and to see about lower his child support.
I know a lot of you moms have come on hear asking about what you can do in getting help with issues with your kids dads but what rights and actions can my brother take against is conniving ex wife?
Anything you could fill me in on would be great. I don't have any knowledge of stuff like this and I think he is becoming incredible depressed about it.
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Post by sweetpeamom25 on Apr 16, 2013 12:52:46 GMT -6
I don’t have any experience with this, other than my own parents being divorced, which was a long time ago. But, I thought if one parent remarried, the child support being paid to that parent was automatically reduced. It doesn’t make sense that she wouldn’t have to pay to go to court but he would? Is this just something she said to scare him away from court, or does he know this to be true?
That’s awful that your brother’s son doesn’t even call him ‘daddy.’ I hope him and his ex-wife can come to an agreement. She should be encouraging the relationship with his real father.....although I’m sure you already know this! Good luck to you and your brother, divorces can be very hard for all involved.
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Post by Samantha on Apr 16, 2013 14:44:29 GMT -6
There are some resource groups for men in these situations. Here's a link to some of those resources... fatherhood.about.com/od/minnesota/Minnesota_State_Resources_for_Fathers.htmOne of my managers went through an ugly custody battle when he found out his ex was being abusive towards his son, he used some of the groups in that link and won full custody. It sucks that men really do have a harder time then mothers when it comes to rights with their children, some guys REALLY want to be there and be involved and if the mother is not cooperative or conniving... well it just makes everything so much harder. And if he already hasn't tried, he should try opening up some communication with the mother - be honest and straight with her about what he wants and how he feels about his child.
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Post by bumblebee23 on Apr 16, 2013 15:50:23 GMT -6
He has tried talking to her but it doesn't do any good. Thanks a lot for the link I will definitely forward that to him! At least he has somewhere to start now.
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Post by sharon on Apr 16, 2013 17:58:53 GMT -6
There's a local organizations for fathers too, I think it's called "Father's First." I heard the guy who heads it speak once and he was brilliant.
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Post by bumblebee23 on Apr 17, 2013 7:31:43 GMT -6
Thanks Sharon!
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Post by AuntSueto4 on Apr 17, 2013 12:52:22 GMT -6
www.fatherhood.gov/The National Responsible Fatherhood Clearinghouse is an Office of Family Assistance (OFA) funded national resource for fathers, practitioners, programs/Federal grantees, states, and the public at-large who are serving or interested in supporting strong fathers and families. link
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Post by irish on Apr 21, 2013 9:47:47 GMT -6
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Post by bumblebee23 on Apr 22, 2013 8:23:57 GMT -6
All of these are great. Thanks Irish I really appreciate it. I have forwarded all the links to him and hopefully he will be able to get some help for his situation!
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