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Post by lilmermaid on Jun 3, 2013 21:11:46 GMT -6
My DH thinks he needs to wear all black to a funeral. I tried telling him that isn't the case anymore. At the funerals I've been to the last few years and it seems like people just wear business casual attire instead of black.
Thoughts???
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Post by dara1012 on Jun 3, 2013 21:30:47 GMT -6
Trends have definitely changed at funerals. All black is not necessary anymore and in fact one trend I see is to wear something with the deceased's favorite color. I go to a number of funerals each year for clients in our company who pass away. Our corporate expectation is to wear conservative business attire (ie. nothing low cut for women, nothing flashy/bright, etc.) Sometimes people dress very casually to funerals which I don't agree with, but most often I see dress pants (men or women), shirt and tie for men (sometimes suit/suit coat) and for women a nice cardigan or dressy shirt.
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Post by lilmermaid on Jun 3, 2013 21:45:36 GMT -6
I have also seen the favorite color but more for females. I guess I don't see the dress pants, shirts, jackets and ties much anymore except for pallbearers and immediate family.
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Post by sarahisis on Jun 3, 2013 23:50:27 GMT -6
I still wear black black or grey... I have a lot of black and grey dress clothes though... pants, sweaters or dressy shirt.
It depends on the person though.
I went to a funeral of a friend and neighbor many years ago... 2003 maybe. He was a couple years younger than me, was a snow boarder, skiier, and did the xgames for kayaking. His family asked everyone to wear regular summer clothing. His gf was wearing surfer shorts, a t-shirt and flip flops... It's what the deceased would've wanted....
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Post by sharon on Jun 4, 2013 4:21:37 GMT -6
I tend to see people wearing plainer, more solid colors, not bright or patterned, but not necessarily black. I also think the people in mourning are likely to not care (or notice) what those around them are wearing.
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Post by sharon on Jun 4, 2013 4:24:29 GMT -6
When Tina's grandfather died this Spring, her grandmother announced that everyone was to wear bright colored shirts to the funeral - she specifically did not want all black. She didn't let people know, however, until after everyone had traveled to town and of course everyone brought black clothes. It's a small town with one small mall, and now we have a lovely memory of an extended family trip to the mall to find everyone brightly colored shirts. And every time I wear that shirt I smile and remember Tina's grandfather.
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Post by fungirls on Jun 4, 2013 6:42:16 GMT -6
That's not the trend any more - I agree with the business casual. Mostly pall bearers or immediate family are in the suits, black dresses, etc. but for the rest of the attenders the dress has changed.
My sister-in-law's father just died, and my niece was wearing a bright pink sweat suit, which I definitely thought was inappropriate - it was her grandfather and she really stuck out.
When DH's uncle died, his aunt requested bright colors, no black, and they had polka music playing. All of that was according to his wishes. It really cheered it up and made it more of a celebration.
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Post by angel22 on Jun 4, 2013 7:12:45 GMT -6
Generally now a days people wear dark colors but not head to toe black and the style would lean more towards business casual. Many families request color or style in honor of the deceased. For my FIL the men all went tie-less because FIL hated wearing his ties (first thing to come off when he would leave work!)
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Post by bunsy on Jun 4, 2013 7:36:36 GMT -6
Conservative, subtle Black not required Suit not required (unless requested)
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Post by ReneeW on Jun 4, 2013 7:59:46 GMT -6
I think more muted colors, tones, and patterns would be appropriate, unless there's a "favorite color" or other theme. Any darker colors that are business casual are fine in my opinion.
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Post by lilmermaid on Jun 4, 2013 11:20:20 GMT -6
Thanks gals! He is still planning on wearing black pants and a black polo but at least he's not dressing like he's going to a wedding!!!! I plan to wear black capris and a dressy shirt.
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Post by bunsy on Jun 4, 2013 11:43:39 GMT -6
I think it is also a cultural and regional thing. I'd pick a middle ground like you have chosen.
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