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Post by Samantha on Aug 14, 2013 6:46:18 GMT -6
I've been doing research about epidurals and stuff which brought me to some disturbing information about hospital births with obstetricians. I'm starting to look into using a midwife or a doula but I don't think I'd be comfortable birthing in my own home... it'd drive me crazy with fear that something could go wrong. My question to you ladies is... have you used a midwife or doula or had a home birth and what was your experience like? Would you do it again and how did it compare to a hospital birth with an OB?
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Post by apryllraye87 on Aug 14, 2013 8:15:03 GMT -6
I haven't personally but my aunt is a mid-wife. My cousin (her daughter) had 4 kids, 3 at home and 1 in the hospital. She said that the hospital birth was the worst, and she should have had them all at home.
From what I hear it's usually much more calm when you have a mid-wife, I know that with my labor in the hospital it was rushed, frantic, and stressful. The doctors and nurses were rude and impatient, and kept insisting that I allow them to use a suction and other procedures I was uncomfortable with. When I refused, they were even more rude. With my cousin she was able to have the lights turned down, had soft music on, worked on breathing and relaxing, overall it sounds like a much better experience.
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Post by sarahisis on Aug 14, 2013 8:19:39 GMT -6
I actually had a great hospital experience with my OBGYN with both kids. Anything I wanted, I got. No rush,no stress. I don't have much advise for you, but good luck
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Post by Samantha on Aug 14, 2013 9:36:53 GMT -6
What hospitals did you two have your babies?
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Post by fungirls on Aug 14, 2013 10:04:58 GMT -6
My OB and hospital experience was good with both of my DD's as well. I delivered both of them at Woodwinds. I also have 6 nieces/nephews who were born there.
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Post by apryllraye87 on Aug 14, 2013 10:19:23 GMT -6
I had DS at Unity, it could have just been that I had a bad hospital/doctor. I'm sure they aren't all that way.
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Post by Samantha on Aug 14, 2013 10:41:24 GMT -6
With my daughters delivery I had a hard time through the labor, if it wasn't for my mother in law I would have stopped breathing.. I was also feeling super agitated and uncomfortable there after the birth. I want a better experience. I've heard great things about Woodwinds which is the hospital my doctor delivers at... So now I'm thinking of having a doula or a midwife to help me through the labor. I just don't want to be rushed or feel like a number and I don't want to be pushed towards things like epidurals, suction or c section deliveries if my labor takes longer. I'm not against epidurals but I've learned that they can makes things go worse for mom and the baby if given at the wrong time. I'm so confused!
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Post by fungirls on Aug 14, 2013 11:08:52 GMT -6
Woodwinds is very open to doulas - I think they have one on staff even. I did not use one. I never felt rushed or pushed into anything I didn't want to do. With DD1, the nurse encouraged me to do what I wanted, which was nice.
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Post by ReneeW on Aug 14, 2013 14:08:23 GMT -6
My two kiddos were born at a hospital with a typical OB. In my opinion, if hiring a doula and/or a midwife would make you feel more comfortable and confident going into your delivery, go for it!! You can decide where you want to deliver (home v. center v. hospital) depending on where your midwife has access and what her professional opinion is on the choices.
The doctors and nurses I worked with (at Methodist) were great with the exception of one person. With my first child, when I called into the nurse line about going into labor and wanting to go to the hospital, the nurse who was manning the phones that night kept telling me to stay home and call back, even though I told her how much pain I was in. DH & I ignored her directions and went to the hospital after 2 hours of labor, which was a good thing since we got there and I gave birth less than 30 minutes later. In the nurse's defense, that was really a fast labor (less than 3 hours start to finish) but still, she should have given me the benefit of the doubt. If I'd followed her directions I would have given birth in the CAR.
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Post by sarahisis on Aug 14, 2013 22:37:52 GMT -6
United and st johns
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Post by kkj on Aug 15, 2013 6:52:39 GMT -6
Look to see if they still have a mid wife unit at HCMC, 26 years ago that is where I chose because with my first birth it was with doctors and I felt the same way as you described
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Post by danikasmom on Aug 15, 2013 8:10:49 GMT -6
The only advice I can give is to talk to dr, mid wife and doula. Then figure out what will be best for your family. I had an ob dr for my first 2 and a general dr for my 3rd. I had the same doula for all 3, but she was my husbands god mother and she was an ob nurse and doula for over 20 years. She was wonderful!!! I gave birth at fairview riverside for the first 2 and unity with my last. I didn't use any meds, but was induced with the first 2. I had calm births because of the doula.
I also was there for my friends birth at north memorial and her home birth. She told me it was nice to have me there to help her relax. With her last birth she left her husband so she needed someone. I was in the birthing tub with her. It was very special to be there with her and help her. I was nervous about it being a home birth, but her mid wife was great and had gone through everything with us before and was there quickly.
Just look at everything and what you pick will be great!!
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Post by angel22 on Aug 16, 2013 8:21:43 GMT -6
I used a Doula with DD1 when I delivered at Unity. It was a great experience. DH learned a ton from her and was able to retain that knowledge for my delivery of DD2, also at Unity. I delivered DD3 at home, by myself, and I do wish that I had had a midwife and home births for all three births, though I loved my Dr for DD2 & DD3- Dr Keith Wenda. Doulas help the mother work through her labor and delivery but they don't do "checks" or deliveries, Midwives and Drs deliver the baby. How hands on they are depends on you, your wants, your location (home, birth center, hospital) and their practice style.
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