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Post by dara1012 on Oct 4, 2013 11:46:44 GMT -6
DS is in kindergarten and his bus picks up and drops off on the corner next to our house. Either DH or I wait with him every morning and he walks home at the end of the day.
My concern and question is that the other kids who are the bus stop are out of control. Yesterday they were running into the street, taking each others backpacks and hiding them in bushes, etc. Today two 2nd graders put each other in headlocks and were pushing etc. In general these 2nd graders are unsupervised while biking on busy streets, run in our yard, walk on our landscaping etc. There are no parents ever!!!
I told them to stop with the headlocks, stop running in the street, no walking on our landscaping etc. but they just look at me.
I don't want DS to think that their behavior is okay. They also were talking about tooth fairy and Santa today which I don't appreciate, but I am less concerned about that than this negative behavior. They are rude, inconsiderate, push each other around, etc.
I don't know where anyone lives except for one boy, but I don't know his parents, when I do see them they never correct their son's behavior (the dad sat in his car until the bus came today).
How would you handle other kids bad behavior in this situation?
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Post by sarahisis on Oct 4, 2013 11:54:48 GMT -6
If it were me, I'd lay down the law.... if I was the only parent there they'd all be standing single file lol
I'd also tell the bus driver and call the school... they'll call the parents.
I remember my bus stop as a kid.... crazy!!
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Post by bunsy on Oct 4, 2013 13:10:04 GMT -6
Notify the school.
Then you get to continue teaching DS the YOUR expectations. I'm sure it won't be the first time you're told him that he's not allowed to behave like someone else.
Safety issues are scary.
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Post by ReneeW on Oct 4, 2013 16:07:52 GMT -6
Wow, what are parents thinking?!? Sorry that you're the one who has to deal with it. Blah! Could you wait a distance away from the crowd, so that you can be waiting for the bus but not have to be a witness to the chaos? Or get on and speak to the bus driver about the situation? Hmmm this is a tough one. It's fine for kids to be playing, but not if it's putting themselves into danger or turning into bullying behavior.
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Post by apryllraye87 on Oct 8, 2013 9:27:33 GMT -6
It's hard when kids are acting a certain way to keep your own from thinking that behavior is acceptable. One thing that I find that helps is to talk to DS, discretely, and ask him things like "That isn't a nice way to behave, is it?" and then praise him when he doesn't model their negative behavior.
If the kids are doing things that are dangerous to themselves or others I would notify the school.
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Post by dara1012 on Oct 8, 2013 12:59:44 GMT -6
We did talk to DS that evening about the other kids' behavior and he knows it is not appropriate or acceptable and that we expect him to behave better than that.
The kids have been better per DH (I have had morning meetings all this week so he has been at the bus stop).
So maybe my yelling at them 3 days in a row did it? If it picks up again I'll call the school.
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Post by bumblebee23 on Oct 16, 2013 8:04:06 GMT -6
I have no problem lecturing and reprimanding other peoples children. Especially if they are playing with my kids or in our yard and I make it very clear what I expect from them. I have on several occasions gone to talk to the parents too.
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Post by sharon on Oct 16, 2013 19:05:09 GMT -6
I'm with Bunsy. Call the school and make YOUR expectations for YOUR kid clear. I've also said things like, "I'm so very glad you don't act that way." "You're so lucky that you have parents to teach you how to be polite/considerate/safe/appropriate." or "You know if you ever acted like that you'd be in a lot of trouble right?"
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