Ranting...raging...uggghhh

[nevaehsmom327]

So a few months back my child support was adjusted because DDs dad had to start paying on another child. Fine. I have no problem with that, that mom deserves her support as well. However, it's confusing as f*** to me how I went from getting over $400 a month to now receiving literally, and I am not joking, $185 a month. I don't know if it's even worth it bringing him back to court to get it adjusted or if it will even help. He always bitches about not having any money, but yet he's bought 3 new cars in the last 5 months, DD tells me that he buys his g/f new stuff all the time, I KNOOOW he's buying weed all the time, and a number of other things.

UGH!

As I said, just ranting and raging. And Melissa, if you see this, it's absolutely NOTHING against you. I just don't understand how child support can do that to a parent without even a heads up. Didn't get any notice in the mail or anything. Just a "hey, by the way your child support is going to drop dramatically, get ready to pull some money out of your bum!!" We're a single income family so anything helps and for them to drop that to less than half of what I was getting just seems outrageous!

UGH!

Ok. Ranting, raging, over for now. I just had to get that off my chest. I really am hating child support lately.

[onlyoneboy]

I'm so sorry Amy.
I guess I don't understand child support. Why would what you get drop so much. Shouldn't what he has to pay to up. I mean my expenses doubled when I had DS2. Shouldn't what he has to pay do that? You shouldn't have to suffer because he decided to have another kid. If the rest of us have to cut back on things we buy to support our kids shouldn't he have to as well?

I can see why you are frustrated!

[ReneeW]

How frustrating, absolutely--especially when you know that he's spending money on things like new cars and pot … and your DD's needs every month are certainly a helluva lot more than $185!!!! Grrr …. vent away, I say -- VENT AWAY.

[nevaehsmom327]

Thanks ladies. It is super frustrating. I totally get that the other child needs to be supported. I have NO problem with that, what I don't understand is how they can just up and cut my support in more than half. I mean, luckily we have our finances pretty well set with what we do have coming in, but we have absolutely NO wiggle room now. I've been barely scraping by because the child support just isn't there. We don't get any state assistance with anything else either because I "make too much" when they include the child support. However, it's rare that the support stays for an extended time period, and now it's been slashed. UGGGHHH.

Yep. Ranting. I really just hate it. The part about him bitching about having no money is what really irks me though. Then to have DD come home and say he got a new video game, or his gf a necklace, or a new something for his car. Really dude? but yet my kid has no clothes when she goes over there? RAAAR! Rant. rant. rant.

[bunsy]

Gosh that sounds unfair to that first kid who had no input into the situation.

[dara1012]

Makes no sense to me. If you have 2 kids it costs more....so your support shouldn't get cut, your expenses didn't get cut.

It's so tough because "they" say you make "too much" but it isn't really enough.

Hugs to you!