My kids don't listen to me , but does to dh

[jlschlangen]

My kids (I have 2 ages 10, 7). I tell them to do something (i.e. homework, chores, etc) and they don't move or get up and do it. Though usually when I am telling them something they are engrossed in my son's relatively new kindle he got for Christmas. This mostly started after he had Minecraft put on it. I keep telling him I regret his dad ever putting Minecraft on it.

This really frustrates me b/c I am a SAHM and summer is coming.

Thanks for the feedback.

[jlschlangen]

If I raise my voice & count then they do start to move.

[apryllraye87]

The same kind of thing happens at my house (and weirdly enough, also because of minecraft on his tablet!)

Just over the past 2 weeks I've started taking the tablet away for the night if I tell him to do something and he doesn't get up and do it the first time. I used to tell him several times and then get frustrated before he would listen, but he's already started realizing that I'm serious and listening better.

Now if only I could get him to stop arguing with me about everythingggg

[sarahisis]

No tablet til what's done is done. Period! Give him only set times he can play, after he does what he's told. If he doesn't do what he's told..... No tablet time

[bunsy]

Follow-through and consequences EVERY time.
If it makes you feel better, you can give them ONE warning. 2nd time you have to tell them, the tablet or whatever else they are doing goes away.

[dara1012]

We have the opposite in our house. DS doesn't always listen well to DH.

I ALWAYS back DH up so that DS knows that dad and mom are on the same team. If I disagree with DH's expectations or how he has handled something we discuss that privately, but in the moment I back him up 100% and remind DS that dad and mom are on the same team. And what dad says is what mom expects too. Make sure you get your DH to back you up.

For tablet time, DS doesn't have his own, but when he asks to use ours, we make sure homework or chores are done first and we set a timer. When the timer goes off he is done. I usually give him a 5 minute warning to wrap up the game. If at anytime we ask him to do something and he doesn't listen b/c he is engrossed in the iPad, we take it away immediately for the remainder of the day (and sometimes the next day, depending).

[sharon]

I think getting attention first is key. I know when Ian is watching tv, working on the computer, or reading, I start with "Pause that please" or "Put that down please" and "Look at me please" before I talk to him about anything. And I can relate - I'm the same way. I tune everything out when I am reading or watching something, so you have to get my attention first.

[bumblebee23]

We have a rule that homework needs to be done right after they get home, before anything else. Also with my kids they are so used to me telling them to do something/yelling at them about something that they are tuning me out. DH also thinks they listen to him more cause his voice is deaper and he sounds more serious and scary.