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Post by sarahisis on May 19, 2014 9:13:53 GMT -6
This question stems from an incident that happened this weekend....
We were at the new Herberger's Clearance Store in Maplewood Plaza. Ella was not in the cart, but walking, and a child no older than two ran up to her and BIT her in the forehead!!!!
So, my question is this....
How do you deal with other children's behavior being aggressive, naughty or inappropriate? Whether it be on the playground... at school... or while you are shopping... how far do you go to protect your child? What do you say, if anything to the parents?
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Post by bunsy on May 19, 2014 9:25:12 GMT -6
I would go as far as necessary to protect my child. It's been MANY years. I've used angry face and angry voice to make a kid go away. I have ordered an inappropriate child away from my children. I have picked up a child and returned it to the parents. I wasn't exactly popular but I didn't care.
These days, I probably wouldn't pick up someone else's child with all the paranoia surrounding adults and children. But I would tell the parents. Tell the child to go away. Herd the child back to parents. "Your child just bit my daughter. Please keep her away from us."
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Post by dara1012 on May 19, 2014 9:27:47 GMT -6
I will verbally tell another child that what they did or said is not appropriate.
If the parent is also present I usually wait to see if they will say something first if it is their child acting in appropriately. But if they don't say anything I will. This fall at the bus stop I was often the only parent there and there were many times I needed to intervene (pushing, pulling on each others coats/backpacks, running into the street). In those cases I told them it was inappropriate and then also talked to DS about the behavior later that day.
If it is a physical issue, like biting I would make sure to separate them right away and also let the other parent know. If it is pushing, shoving I would verbally ask them to stop and then physically intervene if necessary.
I always follow-up any inappropriate actions we witness with DS with a conversation with him about what is acceptable behavior.
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Post by sarahisis on May 19, 2014 9:47:38 GMT -6
Ella hardly even cried.. I think she was in shock. The little boy was two, and wandering around the store w/o a parent. Two store employees saw it and then instead of seeing if Ella was OK, were more concerned with the "lost" child.... Though they may not have realized what happened right away. The parents showed up a couple minutes later, the father being the only one concerned where his child was and he was upset when I told him what happened. Mike was Furious!! I told the mother that her wandering child bit my child in the forehead and that she's lucky he didn't break the skin.. At that, we left.
In any other situation, I'd have no problem approaching a parent. On playgrounds I've scolded a lot of other peoples kids because they had their nose stuck in their phones and had no idea where there kid even was, let alone what kind of trouble they were causing. I have picked another child up and removed him from trying to wrestle my ds. He is not a rough play kind of kid. Ive taken another kids hand and looked him in they eye and told him that it was not ok to hit or kick... Though, I always search for the parent first unless it seems emergent!
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Post by lilmermaid on May 19, 2014 10:18:17 GMT -6
I agree with all of you!
We have some neighbor kids I don't like playing with my girls. We just had a discussion yesterday that it's okay for them to ask them to leave. These kids are rude and are all over the neighborhood! It may come down to me telling them they are not welcome at my home!
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Post by dara1012 on May 19, 2014 10:51:31 GMT -6
DS has been self-selecting to not play with neighbor kids lately. It's hard because he is the youngest kid in close proximity. He will play 1:1 with 2 boys who are a grade ahead of him. But he doesn't like playing with the 2nd and 3rd graders (he is in Kindergarten). I touch base regularly with the mom of one of the kids he does like to play with and she has set limits on some of the older kids too because she doesn't like their behavior.
It will be interesting to see how the summer goes now that DS knows all the kids from riding the bus. We have reminded him that he can choose who he wants to play with and can come home at any time. I keep an eye on them, but sometimes you can't always hear what they are saying. Fortunately DS follows our expectations well.
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Post by apryllraye87 on May 20, 2014 8:12:57 GMT -6
I agree with what the others have said, I'm usually reserved and quiet but when it comes to DS my "mama bear" instincts come out, especially if another kid is hurting him. I've scolded kids on the playground and told them we don't behave like that. I will also usually wait to see if the parent(s) will intervene first.
If another child ran up and bit him I don't know how I'd react, but probably the same way you did. I'd definitely be upset!
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