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Post by ReneeW on Oct 9, 2014 21:35:35 GMT -6
So my BFF is going through a tough time--her mom is battling her final fight with ovarian cancer. Her mom maybe has a few weeks to live, it's heartbreaking.
I work FT at a stressful job but feel like I should be doing more to help. Last week I brought over a couple of meals & I plan to do that every week for a while.
Do you have any other ideas on what I can do to help? I took her 3 kids one night for a sleepover & will offer to do that again ... Stopped by the other day when she needed a shoulder to cry on ... But I feel like I'm not doing enough for my wonderful friend.
If you have any ideas or advice I'd really appreciate it!!
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Post by sharon on Oct 10, 2014 6:00:55 GMT -6
What about just calling or texting to let her know you're thinking of her? You can't fix it for her, and you can't quit your job to be there for the next several weeks, but it sounds like you are doing all you can on your off time, and if she hears from you a bit more than usual, then that's lovely. I think phrasing your text or vm so there's no pressure to return the call ("I was just thinking o you and wanted you to know. Only answer if you want to and have time.") is helpful so she feels your love but it doesn't add another task to her list.
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Post by ReneeW on Oct 10, 2014 10:44:59 GMT -6
Great points - thanks!!
I'll for sure do that - just an "I'm thinking of you" text more often so she doesn't feel so alone ...
I really wish I had my old part-time schedule!! Ah well ...
I'm thinking
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Post by ReneeW on Oct 10, 2014 10:47:17 GMT -6
(Darn it typing on a phone!!) ...thinking of making soup this weekend, maybe one other meal and then muffins or something breakfasty. . The good news is the cool weather has me in a baking/cooking mood!
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Post by dara1012 on Oct 10, 2014 14:37:19 GMT -6
Meals are great and taking the kids to help is awesome too. Mailing a card or sending a text is always appreciated.
I think that you are doing a great job for your friend. Just remember to keep it up after her mom passes, that may be when she needs you the most. I still send my friend a card every year on the anniversary of her mom's death. She said it makes it less lonely to know that others are thinking of her.
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Post by bunsy on Oct 10, 2014 15:16:26 GMT -6
You're doing a great job of supporting your friend. Just keep talking and being there.
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Post by ReneeW on Oct 10, 2014 19:43:21 GMT -6
Thanks, Ladies! I appreciate the advice/input SO much!
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