|
|
Post by deannemdm on Oct 24, 2011 12:34:45 GMT -6
I actually suggested having a site for people that became moms later in life to share ups and down. What has been easier and what has been more difficult about having children when you are older?
I first became a mom to DD at 30... I had been married for 3 years and in that time got my Master's degree. I had my DS at almost 38. Things that helped being older...more financially secure, had chance to "be young".....Things that are tougher... trying to keep up with a 2.5 yo at 40! I am pretty active but can be exhausting. DD is 10 so she helps most of the time anyway. At times I go to ECFE classes and feel so out of date and old...There are moms there that are young enough to be my kid! I don't mind that. It is interesting to hear their stories...or any mom's story.
|
|
|
|
Post by MetroMomLisa on Nov 6, 2011 9:51:07 GMT -6
Hi, I'm Lisa and I actually had my first and last 20 years apart so I was a young mom, and an almost 40 mom!
I found I had more energy for my kids when I was younger, but with my last, I have a lot more patience and we have a very close relationship. If I could do it all over again, I would not have started so early!
The only thing that bothers me is that I'm now heading toward 50, am a grandma too, and I tend to get funny looks when I pick my daughter up from school and other parents hear her call me mom! I don't think I look old, but it sure would be nice to have more older moms to talk to!
|
|
|
|
Post by deannemdm on Nov 6, 2011 10:15:04 GMT -6
My kids are 7.5 yrs apart and it can feel strange, my younger brother (almost 4 yrs) has a stepson in his second year of college and his wife is a year older then me. I have highschool friends on FB talking about their kid going through basic training and turning 21! This keeps me feeling young-- having a 2 year old I can't be old, right?
|
|
|
|
Post by tammysalsully on Feb 9, 2012 16:15:04 GMT -6
Hi all,I am new to this site and look forward to talking and listening to other Moms.I have 3 kids my son is 24 and my Daughters are 12 and 4 yrs.I am a stay at home Mom and I think its time to get a job.I am so stressed out over my girls and all they do is fight yell scream and call each other names daily.It wasn't easy being a Mom at 16 and or at 41 yrs. So again I look forward to being apart of this group.<3
|
|
|
|
Post by laurac on Feb 9, 2012 16:23:18 GMT -6
Welcome Tammy!! We're glad you're here and you've come to the right place!
|
|
|
|
Post by cwolbeck on Feb 9, 2012 16:47:08 GMT -6
Hey ladies, I am a mom to a 5.5 year old and pregnant for the last time (going to be born on Saturday via induction). Since I was a child I always wanted to have kids young (I'm 30), I actually told my husband at the beginning of last year that if he wanted another kid, we would have to do it now or never. I always told myself I would be done having kids by 30.
To relate to more of the people in this feed, I have a twin sister who is exact opposite of me. She is in the middle of law school, and is probably not going to have kids until she is 35 or older. So I think it is great what you do either way.
Last year when my son was in preschool I became friends with a mom who was about 40-45, as I tend to relate to people older than myself. I really think that with all the school demands and life demands, that someone older knows how to deal with stress better, but maybe that is my opinion.
|
|
|
|
Post by ladyandrearose on Feb 9, 2012 18:48:01 GMT -6
Welcome, Tammy!
I became a first time mom at 33 (I was 2.5 weeks shy of my 34th birthday.) I think it was the perfect time for me. I had time to start and invest in a career after college was over. I took my time to find the right guy, (got married at 29). We found our house, burned it down, rebuilt it and worked on being a strong couple. Then we started trying for a baby.
I like the stability we had as a couple and where we were with our jobs. I believe I have more patience and wisdom because I watied. I wish I had the energy of a young 20 something mom, though!
|
|
|
|
Post by momof3anddog on Feb 22, 2012 22:10:51 GMT -6
I am a 43 year old mom of a 6 year old and twin 2 year olds. I got married to the love of my life at 34 and will have been married 9 years (this year). I like that I have my education done, developed a career, have a decent but stressful job, before I married and had children. However, I will say that I almost waited too long to have children. Pregnancy has always been a drama for me with going into labor too early. Maybe that wouldn't have happened if I would have had children younger. But who knows -- maybe it would have. I do know that I could not have mentally dealt with some of the medical dramas I have had with my twins if I had them at an earlier age. My only concern is that since I am so much older and my family is so much older, a lot of my family support is dead or otherwise unreliable/occupied with their own age-related issues. So sometimes I feel really alone when I need help. Most of my friends either do not have children or their children are so much older that they just do not understand/remember that I cannot at this time in my life -- go spend a full day at the salon, go shopping just for the sake of shopping, or take a full girlfriend weekend away. So sometimes I am stressed, but other times I am just very grateful for all that I have - a home, a job, a husband who is a great father, and 3 relatively healthy kids, and a neurotic but snuggly-buggly basset hound mix. Think I'm going to go drink a cup of tea right now and snuggle the dog. Kids are in bed and it is quiet, quiet, quiet. Love it.
|
|
Back to the Top
