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Post by hellings on Dec 1, 2011 8:43:47 GMT -6
SO and I just found out a couple days ago we are expecting.  I feel he needs to tell his youngest son's mother. SO thinks it's none of her business. My dilema is she is a friend on FB and I believe she deserves to know before I make the announcement to all of my friends on FB. My questions is, should I be the one that tells her in a private message on FB? Or should I just announce it since SO believes it's none of her business. I planned on messaging her through FB the weekend the son is here and we tell him he is going to be a big brother. |
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Post by laurac on Dec 1, 2011 8:48:33 GMT -6
My opinion, she should know when the son knows. Technically it's none of her business, but she will still be affected by it. And your SO should tell her. Not you, not the son and definitely not on Facebook.
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Post by merrr on Dec 1, 2011 8:57:16 GMT -6
Yup - What LC said. |
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Post by nevaehsmom327 on Dec 1, 2011 9:02:50 GMT -6
I agree 100% with LC. I would let her know.
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Post by bumblebee23 on Dec 1, 2011 9:07:46 GMT -6
I have to agree with LC on this one!
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Post by hellings on Dec 1, 2011 9:52:58 GMT -6
My only means of communication with her is on FB. Occasionally I do see her face to face. I agree 100% she has the right to know. I just have to convince SO he needs to tell her |
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Post by gwensmama9206 on Dec 1, 2011 18:53:50 GMT -6
I think that if you tell her than that's ok. If not, that's ok too. I agree with your SO that it's none of her business. I mean, if my BD was having a baby with another girl I wouldn't expect him or her to tell me. I would obviously find out eventually but I wouldn't really care if I wasn't personally informed about it. I don't know, that's just me I guess.
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Post by JazzyMaxie on Dec 1, 2011 19:16:00 GMT -6
I have to agree that it is none of her business.
I found out about my son's biological's other 3 children on court documents. I don't really care.
I think that it is awesome that you can have a FB relationship with your DH's ex. I would hope that she can appreciate that openness between the two of you, and not be expecting that closeness!
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Post by megs25 on Dec 1, 2011 20:44:15 GMT -6
I think it's actually kind of considerate of you to feel like she's higher up on the chain of command than the general public. I agree with LC, but it depends on your relationship with her too. Do what works for your relationship with her and for your family.
Congratulations!!!
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Post by dara1012 on Dec 1, 2011 20:53:12 GMT -6
A co worker of mine found out her ex was having a baby with his new SO (who he cheated on her with while they were married) from her 2 1/2 yo....IMO that is not cool. If your SO won't tell her and your only way to communicate with her is FB I would send her a private message before a public announcement.
Good luck and welcome to MoMs!
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I feel he needs to tell his youngest son's mother. SO thinks it's none of her business. My dilema is she is a friend on FB and I believe she deserves to know before I make the announcement to all of my friends on FB. My questions is, should I be the one that tells her in a private message on FB? Or should I just announce it since SO believes it's none of her business. I planned on messaging her through FB the weekend the son is here and we tell him he is going to be a big brother. 
