Sick Kids at Night

[ReneeW]

Random comment ... but last night (or rather early this morning--4:30 am) my 4-yr-old wakes up crying. She thinks she's going to throw up, so I'm up with her for about an hour, I end up snuggling down with her for a while, etc. Anyway, she's crying here and there, we're in the bathroom, all of that. And my DH sleeps through the ENTIRE THING. I mean ... I don't mind, he's working today and I have the day off so he should be the one getting some rest. But it kind of makes me shake my head disbelievingly ... like ... how can he sleep through all of this? Why do moms have this "kid crying radar" and we're up immediately and the dads (not to stereotype, it's just how it is at my house) snooze away peacefully?

Does anyone else have this situation? Or are you the heavy sleeper and your DH is up with the kids? Maybe it's a carryover from those new baby days when I'd be up to nurse at night so now, years later, I'm still the one who's mentally / aurally tuned in to kids while I'm asleep. I dunno, it's just funny!! I always thought of myself as a heavy sleeper, but those days are apparently long gone.

[brandi6685]

Works the same in my house too

[fungirls]

Same in our house, too. My DH can sleep through anything, and I wake at even the click of their door knob turning.

[lilmermaid]

My DH is the same way. He barely ever wakes up or appears to be awake when the kids are up. One night I was BFing DD3 and DD2 woke up sobbing with her terrible leg pains she gets. I had to boot DH so he would get up to get DD2 some meds since I couldn't stop BFing. You would think he would jump up and get right to helping me.
I hear every single sound in my house and it drives me nuts!

[jrose]

Totally the other way around in our house. I'm the one who sleeps through most things and I don't understand how I do it. Dh is a light sleeper so he usually deals with the kids at night.

[bumblebee23]

works the same for us I would be pushing DH and practically punching him some nights to make him get up and give one of the boys their bottles because I was exhausted....after all that I might as well have just gotten up myself.

I used to be a really light sleeper and everything would wake me up. Not so much anymore but could be that the boys are older and sleeping through the night and my bedroom is in the basement where it is nice and quite!!!!

[betherin]

Ds2 was sick last week. He would cough so hard he threw up and then was inconsolable. I finally brought him into our bed where he continued to scream and cry for almost an hour. Dh never batted an eye and the next morning admitted he didnt even know he was there.

[supermommy]

Nope Dh would get up, sometimes I might have to wake him if he is in a heavy sleep but he is the one to deal with puke and illness.

[stacyl]

My daughter was sick a few weeks back. My husband DID get up, but what me angry was that he left the baby monitor in the bathroom, so I barely heard her crying. (we sleep with doors closed, and a fan on) He cleaned her bedding up, threw it in the wash, and went to bed. I got 2 hours of sleep before she woke, and was up with her from 2 am until 930 that night. whew. talk about a long night. (you're not alone!)

[angel22]

Same here. DH has gotten up to help ONCE! I was pg with DD3, still puking at every little thing and BOTH DD1 & 2 got sick at the same time one night. DH stripped their beds, left the sheets and blankets with me and went back to bed. But at least he got up, right?

[danikasmom]

It's like that in my house. My husband is a hard sleeper. Our bedroom is downstairs so I can hear when they walk down the hallway.

[love]

It is usually DH who deals with it but I'm still up worrying. If it is bad we will both be up.

[ladyandrearose]

I always wake up first unless, I'm so completely exhausted I don't hear it. Sometime it takes pushing him really, really hard to get him to help. Sometimes he gets up right away. Like last night DD came screaming and running out of her room with a bloody nose. She wouldn't stop crying. He did respond after a bit. He cleaned all the blood off the floor and her. I cuddled with her until it stopped and then she asked, "Can I sleep w/ daddy now?" THanks Hon! Oh well, I just went to work early.

[slufoot]

My DH usually has the "he was up last night" reaction when DS does actually wake up. Even when DS was little, I would have to wake up DH, and then I was awake myself anyways.