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Post by love on Jan 25, 2012 15:46:24 GMT -6
So I'm in the process of WLS (not doing too great and am in a funk) and to add to the funk DH wants to try for #2. I think with all this preschool, potty training and him turning 3 we are both ready? I now feel ready yo have another. This was so not in the plans. It was for me to get surgery and wait the reccommened 6 months THEN TTC. Now we both feel now is the right time. I recently stopped going to my meetings so I basically have to start over. I was and am still in a funk and it was so draining trying to work out, eat right and all the emotional sh&& I was dealing with my mom. Now, I kinda feel like saying F it. Which is NOT good but that is where I am. And I am a honest person....that is how I feel. I dunno. I need help getting out of this funk. 3 months ago I was ready to go, ready to have a baby in a few years and here I am stalled out. I was doing so good, portion control, working out for 2 months, I weighed in 2 weeks ago and did not LOSE ANY! Did not gain but didnt lose. That pissed me off. All this hard work busting my butt and NOTHING? I for sure thought I would be down atleast 5 so this is where I gave up. Bad I know. Sorry I had to get it all out there.....
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Post by ReneeW on Jan 25, 2012 16:02:41 GMT -6
Ugh, that's the worst when you expect to see results and get nada. Hang in there -- plateaus stink but you'll get through it. I know for me, if I change up my workouts and try something new and different that helps. Your body gets resistant to a certain type of exercise. If you haven't tried a Zumba class or cardio kickboxing or something new and different it might be worth a try. Good luck!!! As far as trying for another kiddo, I think you have to listen to your heart -- no one else can really tell you what that "right" time will be. So hang in there and trust yourself that you know what's best for you and your family.
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Post by lilmermaid on Jan 25, 2012 16:22:51 GMT -6
Hang in there! Sounds like it's time to do some thinking about what your heart and gut feel is right, right now!
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Post by doeeyedgirl on Jan 25, 2012 16:25:23 GMT -6
Love...I know it's tough. I am in the almost same predicament (minus the TTC right now..lol). I am working hard to lose weight and watch my portions for my wedding. I'm sure that TTC will be coming shortly after. I don't want to gain any back. You can be PG and TTC and still continue your work out. As for not losing, hey, every decision that you make to watch what you eat and work out is still a healthy decision for your body. Never is it a bad one. Yes, it is very disappointing to know you haven't lost anything. I haven't weight myself (I'm only in week 2) because I am scared. Please know if you wanta work out buddy, I would LOVE to have one. We can be each other's support team. Oh....and how exciting that you are planning for another little love! Turn that frown, upside down.
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Post by supermommy on Jan 25, 2012 21:57:03 GMT -6
If you are not ready for surgery go for the baby but I agree with Cyndy--you should continue to work out and eat well, it is so good for the baby and for you! I too get in the same funk...I would so rather eat what I want and not have to worry about exercising, it is not something I enjoy at all, however it is important. Ultimately you want a family and that makes you happy...but a healthy you will make for a happier family...so keep that in mind and good good good good luck if you start TTC!!!! I hope it happens quickly.
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Post by dara1012 on Jan 25, 2012 22:22:00 GMT -6
It is so hard! I am struggling with weight loss, exercise, etc too. I wish that food, weight, body image, etc weren't an issue in my life but they have been for over 20 years and I don't see that changing anytime soon So know that you are not alone! I had really hoped to lose 70lbs and then discuss w/ DH TTC. DS will be 4 in a couple months and I am still on the fence about trying for #2. For me the earliest I could even begin trying is 6 months to a year d/t grad school. Unfortunately I have only lost 3lbs....I so desperately want it to be more, but it is slow going! Keep trying to make good decisions everyday, exercise, eat right and if now is the time for WLS and that feels right, do that. If it's time to try for a baby then do that. Good luck, keep up the hard work on healthy living and I will too.
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Post by merrr on Jan 26, 2012 10:22:00 GMT -6
Okay Love. You've seen me in person. You know how I carry my weight. Please know that I get in the SAME funk about weight loss. We may have different body frames, end goals, etc but the core issue that I think ALL women face is that when we are not happy with our bodies and we try to do things "right" to "correct" what makes us unhappy and then we don't see the results we ALL get depressed about it. Add to that the other life stressors you've got right now and the possibilty about another baby ... No wonder you're overwhelmed! Chin up, you can do this.
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Post by megs25 on Jan 26, 2012 15:34:48 GMT -6
You said you were doing So good. Regardless of what the scale was doing, you must have felt great about it! I've been losing weight for over a year now and have seen my body pull a lot of crap! Sometimes when I kick it into overdrive, I'll hold on to water weight.
Make your decisions when you're sure about what you're choosing 100%. Hannah said it right that eating and exercising is best for the baby if you do TTC, otherwise, waiting and getting healthier also benefits everyone involved.
Best of luck getting some of these tough choices made. It sounds like you know you're going to lose the weight, so better off starting now vs. in a year.
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Post by onlyoneboy on Jan 26, 2012 20:53:14 GMT -6
I had WLS in June of 2010 and am now 7 months preggers. I know for me there is no way I would have been able to make it through a pregnancy before WLS. It would not have been healthy for me or for baby. I waited 1 year after surgery to start TTC and it only took us 3 months. You need to decided what you need to do for yourself. How much further do you have to go before you can have surgery? Do you really want to wait then have to start the process all over again? Good luck with your decision, just remember you need to do what is right for you.
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