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Post by love on May 23, 2012 16:08:34 GMT -6
I need help approaching fellow mommys appropriatly. Can anyone give me tips on making mommy friends out and about?! I'm SO not good at it.
Our pool opened up at our development last night, DS made a new friend immediately which was a girl his age, they played for over 2 hours and mom and I chatted. Another friend of theirs came so she was talking to them more. As we were leaving DS wanted to hug the little girl bye so we went over and said bye and she said we will see you around. I feel like I should have exchanged numbers but I was nervous on how to do it without sounding weird! Anyone give me tips?! I did mention to her a moms club in the town we live to check out as she said she just moved her and she said she will look into it. I know we may bump into them again but kinda feel bad. Now I wonder if she thought I was rude for NOT asking....ugh! The things we think about lol
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Post by love on May 23, 2012 16:12:07 GMT -6
Oh and if anyone wants to take a dip LMK! We have a great pool area, kiddie pool and lap pool.
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Post by cissy on May 23, 2012 18:21:17 GMT -6
If you feel weird about asking for her phone number you could always start with saying it is for a playdate since your DS got along really well with her DD.
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Post by supermommy on May 23, 2012 18:30:52 GMT -6
I wish I lived closer! I would be over and swimming with you guys a lot!
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Post by angel22 on May 23, 2012 18:46:16 GMT -6
I'm horrible at it too, Love. Just bring Cissy with everywhere, she isn't shy. =)
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Post by dara1012 on May 23, 2012 18:54:23 GMT -6
I don't know many people who are good at making friends out and about....I think that if you run into them a couple more times at the pool area you could say "I've really enjoyed getting to know you while we watch our kids play, would you like to get together sometime? Here's my number/email". Then the ball is in her court.
I have hardly any friends who have any kids that are DS's age....I will chat at swim lessons or on the sidelines at t-ball but it never goes any further than that. I am hoping as DS gets older and we start seeing the same kids places (like kids in his classroom, sports teams) we'll connect on a more significant level. I feel like my parents didn't instantly become friends with my teammates and classmates parents, but the longer we were in the neighborhood the more the friendships developed.
My brother and his wife have about 5 or 6 friends with kids who are similar in age to their kids which I am kind of jealous of. DH and I have wonderful friends but they either don't have kids, have kids a lot older or a lot younger.
Just keep being friendly around your development and I am sure you'll get to know some moms.
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Post by cissy on May 23, 2012 19:43:49 GMT -6
Shhh Angel, don't let out my secret! Yeah I am not the quietest person, I kinda chat about anything and everything and see where the other person is in on it and go from there. If things go good from there I usually see if an escape from the kids is every in the picture and we go drinking or shopping.
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Post by doeeyedgirl on May 24, 2012 8:17:24 GMT -6
I am horrible at this, too. It's always so awkward. Try not to seem too forward but forward enough.....I am just like you, Love. I usually tend to not act on it and feel like I should have in the end.
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Post by laurac on May 24, 2012 8:54:00 GMT -6
I would say if you see her again, just say, oh hey! I was hoping to see you again! The kids got along so great I was wondering if you would be up for a playdate sometime? Especially if she is new to the area, too.
Love, I've met you a couple times and anyone who knows you is lucky to be your friend!
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Post by irish on May 24, 2012 9:31:02 GMT -6
I think LC's idea is perfect! I'm the same way...SUPER shy and not all that comfortable initiating something! Hopefully you'll see them more often at the pool, and you'll get more comfortable asking her!
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Post by ReneeW on May 24, 2012 13:53:25 GMT -6
It is hard to make friends as adults, isn't it? I agree that if the kids get along, just say, "Hey, the kids play so nicely, want to meet at a park for a play date some time?" or, "We come to the pool a lot on (Tues/Wed) in the morning, hope to see you here!" or even just jot down your e-mail address or phone number and say, "If you want to come over for a play date, give me call" etc. Then it's in the other mom's court and you know you've done your best to start a friendship.
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Post by love on May 29, 2012 13:53:21 GMT -6
Love, I've met you a couple times and anyone who knows you is lucky to be your friend!
Aw thanks LC!!! I guess I'm good at fooling people LOLOL!!
So we saw them Friday, we had been at the pool for a good 2 hours or so and we were getting ready to leave and they came. DS begged to stay and play so we did. We chatted and she was getting ready to leave and I said Hey would ya mind exchanging numbers so we could text each other sometime for a play date. The kids get a long so well, and we are always looking for friends close to home. We exchanged and have yet to reach out to each other but it was a busy weekend and now the weather isn't that nice to hit the pool. I may invite her to play date I'm going to Friday.....I felt relieved after I did it and kinda embarrassed lol!!! Thanks for the advice ladies!!!
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Post by supermommy on May 29, 2012 14:05:09 GMT -6
Good for you for jumping in and doing it! I hope you two click and are able to be friends :-)
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Post by laurac on May 29, 2012 14:36:33 GMT -6
YES! Great job, Love! she may have wanting to do the same and didn't have the courage either!
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