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Lying
Oct 28, 2011 19:14:00 GMT -6
Post by apryllraye87 on Oct 28, 2011 19:14:00 GMT -6
DS is 4.5 and has recently started lying all the time. I have tried putting him in time out, explaining why we don't lie, taking away toys, etc. But he still lies! The thing that worries me most is that he doesn't even bat an eye when he lies. I'll ask him a question and he just flat out lies like its nothing.
Tonight we got home from his halloween party at school and there were 4 pieces of candy in his bag. I told him that he couldn't eat them until he had dinner and asked him to bring them and put them on the table. He brought out 2. The conversation went as follows: Me: Aiden where are the other 2 pieces? A: I don't know. Me: Did you eat them? A: No. Me: So if I go in your room I won't find wrappers? A: No. Me: Okay, if I go in your room and I find wrappers that means you lied and you will have to throw away the rest of your candy. A: I didn't eat them.
So I go in his room and of course find the wrappers. I told him to go in timeout and then I made him throw the other 2 pieces of candy in the garbage. He bawled for a long time and it was hard to make him do it but I followed through. He is upset about the candy but I'm not even sure he still understands the whole point. In his mind he had to throw his candy away and thats why he's upset.. I don't think he understands the concept that he had to throw them away BECAUSE he lied..
How can I get it through to him that it is NOT okay to lie?? My cousin has lied since she was little and to this day she is a chronic liar.. I don't want that for DS. Ugh. I'm at my wits end with this!
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Lying
Oct 28, 2011 19:33:31 GMT -6
Post by supermommy on Oct 28, 2011 19:33:31 GMT -6
I don't really know what to say except maybe to implement a reward system. Have chips in a jar and every time he lies take one out. If he can keep a full jar for so many days he gets a small treat? Or you could do it the opposite way as well where he puts in a chip or being naughty and he would want to keep it empty. That way he sees the consequence for lying. Good luck, I am so not looking forward to that stage.
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Lying
Oct 28, 2011 21:02:59 GMT -6
Post by dara1012 on Oct 28, 2011 21:02:59 GMT -6
We are having a hard time with lying lately too. DS is 3 1/2 and it has mostly been about potty training. He says he is dry or didn't go #2 in his parents, but clearly he did.
We are doing time outs and then talking to him after the timeouts. I hope he starts to get it soon.
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Lying
Nov 2, 2011 8:15:34 GMT -6
Post by deannemdm on Nov 2, 2011 8:15:34 GMT -6
Try telling him what he should do.....In our family, we tell the truth. Check with him that he knows the difference. Give him some examples-- like tell him he is 8 and see if he knows that is a lie, etc. At that age he should be able to tell the difference, but....maybe not.
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Lying
Nov 2, 2011 9:15:53 GMT -6
Post by angel22 on Nov 2, 2011 9:15:53 GMT -6
It is a phase and it is normal at that age, but it doesn't make it any easier to deal with. I remind my girls that they will get into more trouble for lying than for telling me the truth if they did something wrong. When I catch them in a lie (usually DD2 now- she is a newly minted 4 year old) I give them a chance to tell the truth then follow through with the "punishment" I warned them about. It's hard, but they do outgrow it! =)
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Lying
Nov 2, 2011 11:27:04 GMT -6
Post by Sus on Nov 2, 2011 11:27:04 GMT -6
ya, it is a phase and normal for that age... BUT you gotta catch it and nip it in the bud!
We always had the kids watch "Veggie Tales: Larry Boy and the Rumor Weed"... and then talk about it.
Don't know where you are spiritually, but we have ALWAYS gone back to the GOD Card! "If you lied, and Mom and Dad don't find out, or a teacher...etc.. It's still not ok, cuz GOD will always know when you are lying.
Good luck and Stay Strong!
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Lying
Nov 2, 2011 18:25:16 GMT -6
Post by apryllraye87 on Nov 2, 2011 18:25:16 GMT -6
Aiden has seen Larry Boy and the Rumor Weed.. it was a while ago though so he may not remember.
Maybe it's time to revisit!
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