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Post by sharon on Jan 5, 2012 19:47:07 GMT -6
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Post by bunsy on Jan 5, 2012 19:57:32 GMT -6
Awesome!
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Post by sharon on Jan 5, 2012 20:03:06 GMT -6
The other day Ian was picking out new glasses frames and one of the workers made a point of telling him that certain ones were "girls' frames." He looked crestfallen. I leaned in close and said so only he could hear "That's really funny, cause I really thought you were supposed to wear them on your face and not your penis." He bust out laughing.
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Post by bunsy on Jan 5, 2012 20:06:30 GMT -6
Oh Sharon. I love you and your parenting skills.
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Post by bunsy on Jan 5, 2012 20:08:53 GMT -6
Bunsette is also thrilled with your response. This kind of stuff makes her bonkers. Right now she is raging of the "girl-theme" legos. Really? Legos have a gender? Ridiculous
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Post by sharon on Jan 5, 2012 20:10:12 GMT -6
Yeah, that struck me as dumb too. I've yet to meet a girl who didn't play with legos. This idea that girls will only play with pink things is so annoying.
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Post by sharon on Jan 5, 2012 20:10:55 GMT -6
Oh Sharon. I love you and your parenting skills. Thank you so much. It's such a battle to try to protect kids from this idiocy. It's tiring at times.
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Post by bunsy on Jan 5, 2012 20:18:34 GMT -6
I wish I had been as wise 20 years ago. I could have done a lot better though ds2 played with dolls, had a favorite dress-up dress and Bunsette played with trains, trucks and robots. Guess it could have been worse.
Oh! Gasp! My boys wore pink blanket sleepers too! Family actually commented on why I put them in pink. Um. Cuz they were in excellent shape and a great deal at a garage sale. Who cares?
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Post by sharon on Jan 5, 2012 20:26:46 GMT -6
People get *incredibley* threatened when others stray from gender stereotypes. I don't get it but it is definitely true. It makes me SO glad Ian is at the school he is. I venture to think there aren't many schools where a first grade boy can bring a doll to school regularly and have that be a good experience. It should be that way in every school, but I don't think it is.
We have found that the town in Iowa where my inlaws live is pretty bound by gender stereotypes. And then here we come with our Lesbian family and non-stereotypical boy. I talked to Ian about it at one point and just said, basically, that's the way things are there, but not with us, and that's just the way it is. For us, people are allowed to like what they like and they don't have to pretend not to because of those rules. And that our family loves us, but if they don't understand something it's just because it's different to them, and that's OK. So, if someone asks why he doesn't have a crew cut, or he wears bright colors or plays with a variety of toys, it's just because it's new to them.
So, then we were there and he was over his cousins' house. The 3 year old girl was sort of apologetically looking around their playroom full of toys and commenting that there was nothing he could play with since he's a boy. He just shrugged and said, "In Minnesota kids play with anything," and dove into playing with the dollhouse. I thought that was a such a good way of putting it, so now we talk about how he is a "Minnesota kid."
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Post by lilmermaid on Jan 5, 2012 21:56:34 GMT -6
I too am thankful my girls have a good balance between gender specific toys and characters! DH is a huge kid and with no boys around he has made sure my girls are pretty well rounded. He covers the superheroes and I cover the Princesses, lol! I had to laugh when DD1's friend from preschool who was a boy invited her for a playdate and the mom said she had girl toys from her older DD. I told her not to worry DD was into TMNT's and Batman too.
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Post by sharon on Jan 5, 2012 21:59:17 GMT -6
That's awesome Lil!
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Post by love on Jan 5, 2012 22:07:17 GMT -6
As much as I would have disagreed before I had kids with this, I have to say with MY OWN DS I could care less what he likes. I now agree. Hard to figure things out until your in the situation. He loves his Barbie (aka rapunzel) but he also loves trucks. We never have once thrown something on him, just let him figure it out. If we treat him to a toy and he picks a barbie, that is what he gets. If he picks some "boy" toy that is also what he would get. I feel it is different when you force it on them rather then have them decide. I love everything about him and it shows his sensitive side.
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Post by love on Jan 5, 2012 22:09:53 GMT -6
I don't even think that made sense! lol Oh well.
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Post by sharon on Jan 5, 2012 22:10:51 GMT -6
Have you seen the thing going around FB about the dad being mean to the kid because of the toy he wanted and his big brother sticking up for him? I've seen parents in stores put weird rules on kids and it always makes me so sad.
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Post by love on Jan 5, 2012 22:12:59 GMT -6
We did have a giggle the other day at the Hockey game. DS would be a big tough hockey player but in his bio his favorite movie would be rapunzel and toy story. Favorite color purple
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