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Post by merrr on Jan 10, 2012 11:32:08 GMT -6
I was on facebook yesterday and clicked on a friend's profile to write on her wall. The first friend that shows up on her friends list is an ex-boyfriend of mine... The ex-boyfriend that asked my father for my hand in marriage WAY back in the day. I was curious; I clicked on his profile. He's grown his hair LONG and in one of the photos he's got dreads. He was in a wedding that was Star Wars themed - those were kinda fun to see. His status says he's single but he's got a picture of a nephew for all to see. Got me thinking about how life may have been different if I had choosen differently... But I keep remembering that we had some major core values that didn't allign and it's easy to hide those flaws in carefully selected pictures. I'm happy with the choice I made to call it off but it doesn't mean I never wonder how the ex is doing.
So, is it just a "girl thing" to look up an ex and wonder how he's doing? I don't wish him harm; just a happy life.
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Post by nevaehsmom327 on Jan 10, 2012 11:34:15 GMT -6
I think we're just naturally born want to "know it alls". I agree though, I've looked up some exs, and not to try and hook back up with them or anything like that, but just to see how they are.
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Post by bumblebee23 on Jan 10, 2012 11:49:26 GMT -6
I have to agree.....I have found all but a few of my ex's on fb. Granted they where like WAY ex's considering I have been with my husband since I was 16yo but I am friends with all of them. When I first did the request we just caught up: how have you been, I see you have kids, and glad to see you are happy things like that.
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Post by smalltowngirl5 on Jan 10, 2012 11:56:09 GMT -6
I don't think it is just a girl thing at all. I think it is human nature for most people to be curious about people from our pasts. You wish them the best with whatever direction life has taken them. I had an ex somehow find my unlisted # and call out of the blue, thank goodness for caller id and a wonderful husband for screening the call.
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Post by gwensmama9206 on Jan 10, 2012 11:57:04 GMT -6
I'm with you all... I've looked up some ex's. Just to see how their life is going. I don't talk to them or anything though. It's kinda funny to look though and think "Ewww WTH was I thinking??" lol Not with all of them of course but ya know, we all have a couple of 'those' ex's lol
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Post by cissy on Jan 10, 2012 11:57:13 GMT -6
I still talk to a few of my ex's, email, text, fb, and yes my husband knows I tend to talk to much and just tell him who I talk to, figure that way it can't come back and get me. Their is one ex that I will not talk to, started to get mean, tried to friend me on FB and wrote me some thing saying sorry and blah blah blah, yeah I deleted it. I search the decent guys, the ones that weren't worth it then are not worth my time now.
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Post by bunsy on Jan 10, 2012 12:07:08 GMT -6
I would look up exs if I had any.
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Post by apryllraye87 on Jan 10, 2012 12:32:14 GMT -6
I'm with the other ladies. I've looked up ex's also. Not because I want them back, just because I'm curious!
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Post by megan1201 on Jan 10, 2012 12:35:53 GMT -6
Yep, I've stumbled upon a few on facebook. Checked out their page and did the "wth was I thinking.." I think its just in a woman's nature to be curious..
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Post by merrr on Jan 10, 2012 12:53:20 GMT -6
Thank you ladies! Love that I'm not alone on this one
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Post by lilmermaid on Jan 10, 2012 13:04:53 GMT -6
I am friends on FB with one of my ex's and still in contact with another one(friends with his mom on FB). They are both still really good guys and we ended on good terms so I don't see anything wrong with still being friends. DH knows about them and it's okay with him.
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Post by cakemakermom on Jan 10, 2012 13:18:39 GMT -6
I haven't connected again with any ex's, but have looked at profiles (love that sone of them aren't smart enough to have privacy filters). I won't friend any ex's- there's a reason they're ex's. I've actually had to block 2 of them on fb. But when I was working at WalMart, one of my ex's come over to "purchase a cake" (I worked in the bakery) and just happened to chat me up for a few minutes to see if my life was worse than his. Not sure how living in an apartment has anything to do with anything, at least my marriage is happy.
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Post by deannemdm on Jan 10, 2012 13:30:04 GMT -6
REading this got me thinking.....and I looked up 2-- one was not on FB the other I sent a friend request... My DH knows him and his wife and we have spent the night at their house several years ago....I went to his oldest son's graduation party, etc Dh has no problem with relationship and knows their is nothing but friendship their (We had gone to prom in 1989 I think) so way past ex
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Post by stacyl on Jan 10, 2012 17:10:39 GMT -6
I think there is always a curiosity. I've done it too, even though I am happily married. I am sure my Husband's ex's have searched him on Facebook. Whatever.
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Post by fungirls on Jan 11, 2012 8:28:57 GMT -6
I've searched exes also. Onne I am friends with, the others I just looked up to see how their life turned out from curiosity.
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