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Post by dara1012 on Nov 21, 2011 21:34:48 GMT -6
I don't post much and should probably keep my comments to myself.  Sorry can't, You should be thankful that you have family to spend the holiday with. There are many who don't and would love to. I agree that Thanksgiving is about being thankful and if we have family or friends to spend it with then we have a lot to be thankful for. That agreement being made I would also say that where we celebrate holidays is the one argument DH and I have the most. It is hard b/c his parents are divorced, all 3 families live far away and sometimes I have to be on call for work....so we stopped fighting and go with the flow, we get to as many holidays as we can each year. Sure, it's a hassle to bundle up the kiddo and drive around, but it is worth it. We find out when everyone is celebrating Thanksgiving and Christmas (and even sometimes at Easter too) and see what we can do balancing whose house we made it to in the last year or two. This Thanksgiving DH and DS are going to New Ulm for his stepdad's side at noon (I have to stay here b/c of on-call for work) and then coming to my family's dinner in Roseville at 5p. The longer we are married the less we argue about this and the more we figure out how to be together with whomever we can be with and be thankful for that. |
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Post by sarahisis on Nov 21, 2011 22:01:52 GMT -6
"The longer we are married the less we argue about this and the more we figure out how to be together with whomever we can be with and be thankful for that." That's how Dh and I roll too... basically it is what it is... we see who we can when we can, and if that means we have to split up on occasion, then that's what we do. We have never faught about it I don't think.. on the opportunities we get to go to either NY or FL to see either of my parents, we take it... otherwise we just stay here and do the holidays with dh's fam and keep an open invite to my parents to come and stay with us around any of the holidays. I am just so thankful that my dh has a job that pays well, that we have vehicles that get us from place to place and that I have a healthy child! Don't sweat the small stuff  |
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Post by elizac on Nov 22, 2011 7:29:22 GMT -6
I am sorry, Jodi. I am a little surprised that your DH changed his mind so fast. Could there be something else bothering him? Or did you have the same disagreement every Thanksgiving? If the agreement you have does not please him and/or you any more I would work to change it BUT for the next year. This year I would keep it as you always had. I fully agree with Love's comments -- your parents are expecting their turn to have your family over. Can you visit DH's parents next days and have dinner with them? Leftovers taste even better |
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Post by boopmama on Nov 22, 2011 10:10:29 GMT -6
What my sister's family does is they go to her DHs family's dinner and then they come over to our parents house for dessert. That way they aren't eating 2 big meals and they get to visit with both families. Could give that a try. Otherwise you could host the festivities and invite both families to your house.
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Sorry can't, You should be thankful that you have family to spend the holiday with. There are many who don't and would love to.
