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Post by quirky22 on Aug 14, 2012 18:37:08 GMT -6
SOMEONE PLEASE tell me that children get easier to deal with after the terrible age of 4. DD is 4.5 and boy oh boy does she have ATTITUDE. She slams doors, talks back, rolls her eyes, hits...ect..... These things are dealt with the same way, consistently, but I get SO tired of battling with her over SIMPLE things. What do you do?!! Please share your disciplining tips with me!!
UPDATE**
Well, DH and I decided it was time to take control, of what seems like uncontrollable behavior! After I had a talk with my Boss, who also has a 4yo, we decided to make a chart of what exactly we expect. Simple things like, cleaning up her mess, brushing her teeth when asked, and making her bed. (we wanted something fairly easy, like making her bed.) (most of our problems with her behavior stem from her refusing to do things like clean up after herself, and brushing her teeth.) If she has 3 incident free days a week (each incident free day she earns a sticker) then we do something as a reward, like a movie (at the theater) Today, has been pretty good. I haven't been frustrated, and she has complied with my requests...we'll see how it goes when it's time to brush her teeth.....
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Post by jrose on Aug 14, 2012 18:50:44 GMT -6
I think 3 has been worse so far! DD2 turned 3 Sunday but she has been acting 3 for the last month. She is testing us with EVERYTHING! She just laughs at us when we tell her to quit doing something or if we are trying to talk to her. DD1 turns 5 next month and she is starting to get a bigger attitude and talking back and just being mean to her sister at times. Usually a good time out and then a talk work. She still has her moments but I feel is getting better with it.
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Post by supermommy on Aug 14, 2012 18:54:58 GMT -6
Tell me about it, DS1 is 4 and doesn't understand the word NO anymore. He has been a hassle indeed. No form of discipline works for very long either, within a half an hour he is right back to doing what he got in trouble for.
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Post by sharon on Aug 14, 2012 19:18:19 GMT -6
Oh yes! 4 is hard, especially for girls it seems! 5 is easier.
I had a colleague once who used to say "It's not the terrible twos you have to worry about, it's the F&*king fours."
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Post by quirky22 on Aug 14, 2012 19:36:49 GMT -6
Lol LOVE it Sharon. SO TRUE!
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Post by kristin8888 on Aug 14, 2012 20:49:39 GMT -6
Really!?!? It gets WORSE!?!?!? DD is 2.5 going on 16. Ugh the talking back is just starting, she already doesn't listen to a darn word I say!! Sorry, no help from me
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Post by quirky22 on Aug 14, 2012 20:59:53 GMT -6
oh yes, Kristin, It gets MUCH worse. Sorry. At least you have warning. No one warned me!!
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Post by sharon on Aug 14, 2012 21:02:08 GMT -6
We have found the disequilibrium stuff to really hold true - the halves being difficult and then things evening out after his birthday.
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Post by doeeyedgirl on Aug 15, 2012 8:19:19 GMT -6
I am half way through the f*(&ing fours boat ride, too, ladies. Mine seems to be on a bipolar boat sometimes. One day he is absolutely fabulous. The next, there are things with such disrespect just spewing out of his mouth. I have no idea where he even gets it from! And then when disciplined he just smiles or laughs it off like, "whatever, mom". Hang in there ladies! At least we have each other to vent to and not feel alone!
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Post by bumblebee23 on Aug 15, 2012 9:01:18 GMT -6
sorry hun but I haven't found it gets any easier. My boys are 8 and 10 and I kinda wish for the 4yr old attitude back! LOL
My oldest gets grounded from playing outside because he LOVES being out with his friends. My youngest gets grounded from TV/Computer/Video games because he doesn't care if I ground him from outside. Or they are required to write lines. ie: I will not tell my mom no.
Your daughter is probably to young to really use many of my suggestions but if you think about something she really likes and take that away from her as dicipline it should work. Good luck!
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Post by apryllraye87 on Aug 15, 2012 10:17:44 GMT -6
3 was by far the worst for us.. 4 got a bit easier and 5 has been MUCH easier.. I've also heard that 4 is worse for girls, though. The only advice I have is to continue being consistent and just remember "this too shall pass"! One day you'll be able to look back on this and laugh Hang in there!
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Post by cakemakermom on Aug 15, 2012 11:06:16 GMT -6
My dd got better after 4.5 and my son still knows how to push my buttons hard and he's 6 now.
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Post by ReneeW on Aug 15, 2012 15:11:59 GMT -6
I've heard that basically 4 yr olds are 2 yr olds but smarter. So they can have those tantrums and frustrations but they also know how to push your buttons and really get you frustrated!!! So yep, it can be very, very trying. Just do what you're doing, stay consistent, and repeat "serenity now" or visualize how sweet your kiddo is while asleep when you need to!!
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Post by quirky22 on Aug 23, 2012 20:43:13 GMT -6
bump
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Post by ReneeW on Aug 23, 2012 21:05:45 GMT -6
Hey way to go!! Hope she keeps up the good work -- so that you can keep your sanity.
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